Did I mess up?

Question

For the past two months my now ex boyfriend had been talking more and more to his other ex. she decided that she wanted him to be "dad" to her 3 year old and he excepted. I was completly fine with it untill, they started going places together and it was like my son and I were out of the picture. He was planning to go into business with her and I exploded. It was like we wern't even around any more. I broke up with him and now I feel like I made a mistake, my whole family say's i did. he swore up and down it had nothing to do with her and I just couldn't handle his life style... ugh

i dated him because of who he was, not because he couldn't walk, and i have dated someone in a wheelchair, i dont look at that kinda ****

Answer 1

So you have a child and she has a child and he ok's being a "dad" to her 3 year old. He could help her find a guy that could take her and her 3 year old places. Or better yet you could've come along to those places. You said they went. So, what, you were never invited? Seems to me like she wants to build a family; completely understandable since she has a child.

I take it you must've felt like he was disregarding the family you felt you were building with him as his current girl. I don't think you made a mistake at all, unless your break up was something that happened to him out of left field. Meaning you never told him how you were feeling about the situation in the first place. In that case you might've jumped your gun. You could have spoken to him first about how you felt and if he cared (and was worth it) he'd distance himself slowly from his ex or included you in all the plans they've obviously been making without you. Oh well, nothing to do but learn.

Answer 2

You did nothing wrong the child needs a father..aside from that its really annoying to know he cooperating more with his ex than he is with you...
I wouldn't be surprise if he get back with his ex.Don't you find it strange that they are going out together and now things between the two of you seem like its gotton dull?
Honey he's going into business with his EX how can he do that knowing the history they once had?
Had he once stopped and think how's this going to affect you? Does he even think about your feelings anymore?

I honestly don't think you made a mistake......sweetheart you deserve better don't settle for less......

Answer 3

u may have made a mistake or mayb u didnt. the problem was that u felt inivisable and that he should b spending time with u and ur son. what i want 2 kno is if he's the father of ur son. if so then yeah I could c where u had a problem. if not then he may just b trying 2 b a father figure to a child that didnt have 1. i do understand that it was hard 2 c him with his x on the daily and i understand where u would b jealous of that . mayb he didnt kno that it was hard on u. mayb he was innocent of trying 2 hurt y. the only thing i can advise u to do is talk 2 him and try and find out whether he was out to get u or out to b a better man and a father to a fatherless child

Answer 4

Why in the world would you allow yourself to feel this way. If you were not happy with his lifestyle then you were not really happy with him. And even though other people have there own opinions it is up to you as to who you spend your time with and how you ,have a child to take care of and that child should be considered when it comes to the relationships in your life cause if your not happy the people around you will not be happy including your child. I don't think you made a mistake. there is someone for everyone and you will find that someone, that makes you happy.

Answer 5

Honestly, you only had selfish motives when you started dating him in the first place.

Here's my fallacic proof.

If he was in a wheelchair since birth--do you think you ever would have met him and or given him the chance to date you?

You are a rational participant in an economy based on greed.

You get what you deserve.

Next time around, or in the lifeafter.

Date someone in a wheelchair, or are you too selfish?

Answer 6

I can tell you this, if MY husband/boyfriend started having a relationship with his ex-wife in the way you describe, I'd show him how to go take a hike. it sounds as if he's sub-consciously wanting to get back with her. (since he's not owning up to the innocent part). You have to live your life the way that best suits you and your child. Right now that child is the most important factor in your life.

Answer 7

Girl, it's always hard when it comes to a relationship. No one can tell you what you should or shouldn't do. It is up to you to decide in your heart what you can and cannot take from this man. If you decide that loving him is what you want to do and nothing else matters then go for it. Forget everyone else. You make up your own mind.

Answer 8

there is obviously more to the story, as to why you broke up with him, but we wont go there. you know whats best for you, nobody else. dont back down from your gut instinct, no matter who or what comes in the picture, including "jealousy" cuz trust me, somewhere along the line, that new woman will have that same problem you did with him...

Answer 9

I feel you did the right thing-who wants to play second best to an ex.

Answer 10

yep, you did mess up. if you were serious about your relationship and dating exclusively, i wouldnt have let him go out with some other random chick.

also if you are the ex, you shouldnt be upset about him not acting like your in the picture, cause like you said, hes an ex.