Is this going somewhere?...guys/gals...need your opinion please?

Question

I met a guy on a dating website, and we've been talking for over a month. He lives in Indy but is working in San Francisco right now. Last week an opportunity came up because of an error on his works scheduling that allowed him to fly me out to SF last weekend instead of him coming home here. I thought the weekend went great, but he didn't once make a move....not holding hands, kissing, anything. I stayed at his apt with him. I just assumed he didn't feel a connection and backed off a little by the end of the weekend. On Monday he told me that he had made himself a promise before I got there to not let anything happen as this was our 1st date. He is still calling and IMing me every day, and we have plans for his next weekend home. But I'm confused as to not even a kiss goodbye at the airport? Am I thinking about this way too much?

As a side note, we realized early on that we knew each other when we were kids (like ages 8-14). Things feel okay, but still confused.

Answer 1

he seems like a REALLY decent guy! he has maybe realized how moving too fast can affect a relationship. he probably has been hurt and wants to go slow, or he might just want to respect you. either way, i understand how you feel...but give it a little more time, after all, you guys have "just started taking off". and when you meet in person its diffrent from talking on line or on the phone...its like a new begining. so take it easy. this guy sounds pretty repectable.

Answer 2

Theres a higher chance that he might just like you a lot and feel a strong connection and he really didn't want to screw anything up by pushing things. Especially if that is what he said. Us normal guys have this odd tendency to say what we actually mean. Unfortunately we think others do that too and get in trouble for that, but thats a whole separate topic.

All in all-don't worry about it, see him again, and if he doesnt make a move then just kiss him and either things will fall into place or you will at least get an answer one way or the other.

Hope that helped.

Answer 3

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Answer 4

It's actually kind of funny that when a guy sounds/acts like a gentalmen, we freak out?! Are so conditioned to the guy trying to get in our pants and create physical touch that we completely miss the fact that they are trying to build a relationship?

It sounds like he is a keeper because he wasn't trying to pressure you. If he skips out on trying to meet up next time, then he only felt the friend thing.

BUT, I think that he is geniunely looking for a relationship because a quick hook up can happen anywhere.

Answer 5

Some people don't show their affections early in a relationship. Give it a little time and see how he comes around. Sounds like you have a lot to look forward to. Just don't waste time trying to read more into than there is. Good Luck.

Answer 6

It doesn't look to promising*... Hope for the best, but be prepared for the worst and move on*...