My bf and I are getting married in less then 5 weeks. When we first started dating we told each other how many people we were with before we got together, he has only been with a handful, where I have been with triple more then him if not a bit more. I am not a slu* or anything, he is just very shy, and I have always been popular and have always had a bf. I was also younger then as well, so I started before him. We have been together for almost 8 years, 2 children later, should I come clean before the wedding or just never say anything. If I say nothing he would never know, but I don't know if I should come clean or not? Please HELP!!!!!!!
2007-06-22 06:39:00 · 14 answers · asked by Erin 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
No i have never had a disease, and yes i did give him a number when he first asked me, I was nervous and just said a something, he wasn't to happy from the number I said, so that is why i didn't change it to the correct amount.
2007-06-22 07:09:59 · update #1
Well, first did you already give him a #, then stick on that. Do not worry about it anymore, and if was not after you start a realtionship with him does not matter if you had a 1000 bf's. The more important thing is you are together, have 2 kids, and 8 years of relationship as family, so file that information in your brain and forget it. Be happy
2007-06-22 06:55:34 · answer #1 · answered by cronos93291 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly, no matter how many girls he's been with (and I saw a list my ex had, it was like over 200 names and I had sex with like not even a tenth of that and he tripped), he's never going to feel comfortable knowing that you're more experienced than he is. Not only that, but if you already gave him a number and you change it now, he's going to wonder what else you may have lied to him about and with good reason. Ultimately, as long as you are disease free you don't have to give him a play by play of your past. You don't think you're a sl** or anything, but it would suck if he turned around and said you were, so your best bet is to keep your mouth shut (cause no matter what people say the policy of truth is not always your best option, but silence is always golden).
2007-06-22 13:49:14 · answer #2 · answered by Ellie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nope. Past is past. I know we want to be honest with someone we love but there is something like too much honesty that backfires. Hold back.
No need to tear apart ur past thread by thread. Just tell him you have dated guys in the past and learned from every unique person and situation.
Once you sow the seeds of doubt where none is needed, things can change and spoil a good thing.
2007-06-22 13:48:37 · answer #3 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you want this 'true number' to be increased by one to declare before your next boy-friend after this one ? By the way, you are getting married so, keep your mouth shut before him and keep your legs shut before others. There is one very good excuse if he some day knew your past, by your misfortune. Tell him that you were going to tell him everything but these people from answer community said, "No! Don't tell. And so I didn't."
2007-06-22 13:49:21 · answer #4 · answered by Pirate of the Bassein Creek 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When a Man tells a Woman his "number", you can safely that you can DEVIDE the number by 3.
When a Woman tells a Man her "number", you can safely bet
bet that you can MULTIPLY the number by 3.
LOL!
Unless you are trying to prove a point, or you are proud of something . . dont bother talking about it. If he wasn't the shy type, you wouldn't be feeling too god about it right before the wedding would you?
Its history, and unless he looks you in the eye and says . . ."TELL ME ... I REALLY WANNA KNOW", then you can pretty much assume that he doesn't.
:)
2007-06-22 13:49:45 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I know some peole will say to be honest and let him know, but I honestly don't think it is a good idea. He will never forget it and will bring it up from time to time in arguments. It happened before him and does not effect him or your relationship now. It will just hurt him.
2007-06-22 13:43:57 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
NO* it is absolutely not necessary to volunteer that information*.. Its in the past, and just leave it there*. It has nothing to do with the present or the future*. There is nothing to be gained by doing so*... Its not important, don't make it important*...
2007-06-22 14:05:15 · answer #7 · answered by dca2003311@yahoo.com 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you care that much--just tell him. Whats the worst that could happen? He wont marry you and than you can go out and raise that lucky number!!
2007-06-22 14:10:13 · answer #8 · answered by karalinn 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nope, keep it to yourself. I made that mistake with my ex and he would bring it up time and time again. If he asks simply tell him that you are marrying him and that's all that matters anymore and you don't want to dwell on relationships that you had before him. Refuse to discuss it and stand firm.
And best wishes on your upcoming marriage!
2007-06-22 13:48:23 · answer #9 · answered by hockeygirl4462 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hell yes he deserves to know what if u give him a disease and yes u r a slu* .u would want to know if u were the other woman and don't deny it
2007-06-22 13:48:29 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋