Whats the best, polite way to tell my sister that she can't bring her dog to my house anymore? She did not train him right, he is a total terror and last time he was here my husband and I had to do multiple repairs around the house. The dog has major anxiety whenever we try to leave him and he also annoys my cats. My sis is extremely sensitive and loves to hold grudges so I don't want to piss her off. I am a dog lover so Im not trying to be mean, but I just cannot handle being around this dog. Any suggestions?
2007-06-22 06:38:30 · 13 answers · asked by Chrissy 2 in Pets ➔ Dogs
Tell her. I only take my dogs to a couple people's houses. In all honesty I think it is rude to bring your pets. I take them to my Mom and Dad's and that is it. They are grandpets though and they love them.
Your sister should not expect to bring her dog your house. I never take mine to my sisters house. If she came to mine to visit I would not let her bring her cats. If it was an emergency then yes. Other than that, no.
If your sister holds a grudge that is her problem. She will get over it. She probably needs to grow up. You can't walk on eggshells around her. She should be able to leave her pets when she visits you. That is proper etiquette.
2007-06-22 06:43:09 · answer #1 · answered by atlantaboi3 5 · 4⤊ 1⤋
It's very rude to take critters that haven't been invited and she shouldn't assume that it's ok to bring her dog in the first place.
That doesn't fix your problem though.
Just tell her the truth. If she wants to sulk then say fine, you can bring the dog but you have to clean up the dog's mess. Tell her about all your repairs last time and how long it took and how much it cost.
Hopefully she'll realize that you're not just being a B.
2007-06-22 06:52:19 · answer #2 · answered by Nic 6 · 3⤊ 1⤋
This is going to be stern - and comes from a bona fide dog lover.
The real problem is that you are afraid of your sister - who apparently is a bully. There is absolutely NO way you can tell her to leave Brutus at home without offending her. SO suck it up and tell her - and leave the chips as they may fall.
Write her a letter saying that Brutus caused quite a bit of damage to your home the last time he visited. Include copies of the repair receipts to prove your point. Emphasize that you are NOT asking for reimbursement for the damages - but that you would prefer not to repeat the situation again. Ever.
Explain to her that while you long to visit with her - Brutus is no longer welcome due to his destructive habits. When he has demonstrated that he is no longer destructive or disruptive to your own cats, then of course he will be welcome - but for now, please leave Brutus at home - his home.
Now again, no matter what - your bully of a sister will hold a grudge. But she'll hold a grudge for some other reason - having a baby on the night she planned a family party, for instance (how dare you!) or for not choosing her favorite color for your daughter's wedding (how crass!) So get over it and suck up the courage to tell Sis to leave her ill-mannered dog at home.
2007-06-22 06:49:41 · answer #3 · answered by Barbara B 7 · 3⤊ 1⤋
Sensitive Sis? I think not. Sounds controlling to me, being that she likes to hold grudges and disrespects you. In a calm but firm voice tell her that because the dog has done so much damage, she can't bring him to your house anymore, but she can visit anytime. If she holds a grudge that's her problem not yours, it's your house and she doesn't make the rules. Explain to her that once the dog is under control he can regain his visiting privileges.
2007-06-22 06:56:00 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
If it was me, I would tell her straight up. If the dog can't behave when it visits your house, then it can't visit at all. If she still wants to bring the dog, it must remain on a leash while at your house. Let me remind you. This is not to hurt your sister. However, it is YOUR house and although you are related and you do not want to hurt your sister's feelings, making repairs on your house is much worse that a grudge. Tell her you don't want to hurt her feelings but her dog is a nuisance when it visits and if it is not controlled, then it can't come over!
2007-06-22 06:48:08 · answer #5 · answered by Shelly 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Well first of all I wouldn't have let the dog be loose when no one is around that is what a kennel is for. Second of all telling your sister her dog can not visit may result in her not visiting you anymore. I would start with saying that the dog has to be in a kennel when your sister is not there to watch it and if that doesn't work then try telling her that you would prefer it if she left the dog with a friend at home or in a kennel for the weekend.
2007-06-22 06:42:56 · answer #6 · answered by Teresa V 5 · 1⤊ 3⤋
next time she brings the dog over and causes damages, make sure she foots the bill, that way she will think again before bringing her dog over.
2007-06-22 07:57:27 · answer #7 · answered by yesssssssss 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
If I were your sister I would be very mad if my sibling told me I could not bring my dog to his house anymore. That is like my child and your sisters dog is probably like her kid and she will be mad. Maybe you should put your cats away when the dog comes over.
2007-06-22 06:50:22 · answer #8 · answered by sarah 4 · 0⤊ 4⤋
Meh. I'd just kick the dog.
2007-06-22 07:22:03 · answer #9 · answered by bdsmkb 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
give her the bill for the repairs
2007-06-22 07:00:20 · answer #10 · answered by Goodluck 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋