I have been celibate almost 2 years, I have met someone I really like & I am feeling tempted. Any suggestions

Answer 1

You have been celibate for two years! Congratulations. Ask yourself these questions. Why did you become celibate? If it was for God and to regain your purity you should hold fast and wait. Make sure this person is willing to commit to you because you are worth the wait. Aren't you? Why do you wish to become intimate with this person? Do you see yourself marrying him? If yes, wait. If not why would you throw your celibacy away. I waited for 24 years and it was worth the wait. I have only known one woman and she one man. Stay strong and do not let temptation ruin a good thing.

Answer 2

Sweetie I can relate. I was celibate for 14 years because of hate and anger towards men.

I did meet a man last December who changed that. It didn't work out; but for four months I was happier than I had been in years. Making love again was good. If I had known that it was going to be a short-lived relationship, I would have done it anyway. I am glad to know that I can still feel passion. That is worth knowing.

Go for it dear lady. It will feel good to feel again. I promise.

Answer 3

Many young Christians assume that when they find themselves in situations which weaken their sexual self-control, they should just stay put and be tough. That's a huge mistake. Scripture doesn't tell us just to stay put in the face of temptation. It tells us to flee temptation.

Avoiding it will require some changes in your relationship, because the first thing an unmarried man and woman need to do is stop spending their time together ALONE. Alone is what you do on your wedding night; that's why it's so cozy. So when you spend time together with your sweetheart, do it where others are present. When you date, go out with a group. When you pray, have others join you, because this is the most intimate time of all.

Sounds odd, right? That's just because we're no longer used to it. It used to be called common sense.

Answer 4

It really depends on why you have chosen to be celibate.

If by caving into temptation you are damning yourself to hell (in you eyes), then just don't do it.

But if you were just celibate because of circumstances, (havent' met the right person), then go for it! Use protection, and make sure you are both consenting for the right reasons.

Answer 5

If you are ready, then sleep with them. It is not a crime to enjoy yourself with someone you love.

If you are not both ready to start a family together use a contraceptive of some sort.

Sex is a significant part of a relationship. Would you rather find out that you are incompatible in some way now, or wait until you are married?


What harm are you doing to yourself or anyone else if you sleep with this person? If there is harm, do not do it. If there is no harm, do what you fell happy with.

Answer 6

You live only once, dear heart, and this life is not a dress rehearsal, as they say. If you feel 'tempted,' the natural and healthy aspects of your body are saying to you, "Knock it off, what are you, crazy?"

Answer 7

Do it. But first get tested for STDs have them get tested and when you are sure that you are both negative, be sure and use a condom ever single time.

Answer 8

If you really like the guy, I'd say it was time to give in to temptation again!

Answer 9

If you want to have sex with him or her, just be sure to be careful and safe, and you'll be just fine.

Don't listen to anyone who tells you that it's wrong or shameful. There's a double standard out there, condemning women who express their sexuality as tainted. We have to work to overcome that.

So go for it, but be safe.

Answer 10

Why don't you look around and find out for yourself what happened to all those whose actions are/were promiscuous?

There is sadness, despair, ill feeling and emptiness. Do you need examples?

Don't let yourself to be used and feel cheap, let down, thrown off, down the lane.