gave us a check, wrote the wrong last name for us and didn't sign the check. She's a sorority sister of mine so she's no stranger, however, I do feel uncomfortable about telling her her mistake. My mother said she can handle it. I just think me telling her is kind of bad taste. What is the proper protocol for something like this?
2007-06-22 05:55:14 · 20 answers · asked by newsgal03 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
I'd just send it back to her. I've done stupid things like this before. I would feel bad that I did it, worse that no one told me. I'm sure if she attended your wedding there was nothing malicious intended. She might have given your check to someone else. They're sitting around wondering who the heck you are and why the check isn't signed.
2007-06-22 08:12:54 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
Miss Manners would say that you need to let her know. You should assume that this is an error. She may be waiting for the check to clear, and if it doesn't, her bank account won't balance.
You can do this by mail, if it makes you more comfortable. Send a thank you note, for the good wishes, and include the check when you send it. Let her know that you thank her for her good thoughts, but that you are sending the check back, since you can't cash it unsigned. If she really did do it on accident, she'll mail you another...If not, she'll tear up the check, and you'll have done the right thing.
2007-06-22 14:14:33 · answer #2 · answered by abfabmom1 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
WEll as they say honesty is the" best policy" besides how would you get to enjoy the gift if you can't even cash the check? Your friend is just human and we all make mistakes at point or another right? So yeah tell her what happened I'm sure she will understand and probably get a big kick out of it I know I would hahahh oooops!
2007-06-22 13:08:06 · answer #3 · answered by ? 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Let your friend know. Maybe she was super-busy and goofed - to err is human. If she truly meant for you to have the gift of a check, she would want to know so she could fix her mistake. The best thing for you both is to talk about what's so - you are friend and her check is appreciated but there's a problem with it. I would talk to her "live" and just tell her "Thank You" for her gift, and that she accidentally wrote your name incorrectly and didn't sign the check so you cannot cash it. Then ask when you can meet with her. Let her respond. You'll know by her response what her intentions were. We can't just assume her mistakes were on purpose, and for you to worry about talking to a friend of yours tells me you're already assuming there's going to be a problem, and that's not fair to her. Again, just deal with the reality, and not what your head tells you to worry about. Action is better than inaction, right? Right.
Good luck.
2007-06-22 13:34:20 · answer #4 · answered by Pamela P 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If you can't cash the check, it will throw off her accounting badly. Let her know, whether you or your mother does the actual telling. This isn't about bad taste, but about making sure she can keep her accounts in order.
2007-06-22 13:07:29 · answer #5 · answered by gileswench 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No No No, just endorse the check and deposit it.
You have a 99% chance that the bank will just cash it,
especially if you use the ATM.
You'd need not mention it to hurt anyones feelings.
If it bounces, the friend shouldn't say anything, but you could
just say you cashed a whole bunch of checks from the
wedding and didn't notice anything wrong.
you took note of all the amounts, flipped them over and
endorsed them. End of discussion.
2007-06-22 13:12:52 · answer #6 · answered by ItalianAmerican 1 · 1⤊ 2⤋
I would personally write her a letter stating the circumstances and if she would like to present a monetary gift under the correct name and signature fine...also note that her presence was noticed and you hope to hear from her soon!
2007-06-22 13:02:00 · answer #7 · answered by Patches6 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She might have just forgotten his last name but if she didn't sign it you can't cash it anyway. Just give her a sisterly email or call and let her know that you appreciate the gift but she didn't sign it. Congrats on the wedding.
2007-06-22 23:21:13 · answer #8 · answered by indydst8 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should tell her. If your mother is willing to do that it's fine.
I know you don't want to sound ungreatful or greedy but she has probably already marked this in her checkbook and if it doesn't get cashed you can screw up her account so I would let her know just an FYI.
2007-06-22 12:59:56 · answer #9 · answered by pspoptart 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
thats hard.
either dont cash the check, or since you say shes your sority sister, just mention it to her, she may have been doing something else at the time or had other things on her mind.
i recieved a check from my moms co-worker for my april 2006 wedding and she wrote it out to my sister and my husband.
that was pretty funny!!! we didnt say anything though. my husband cashed it since his name was on it.
2007-06-22 13:00:48 · answer #10 · answered by Awesome Rockin Mom 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋