My sister and I are 2 years apart. She is 17 and I am 15. For the past year she has been a complete jerk to my parents and myself. Now, she spends her entire time with her boyfriend, is never at home and is always lying to my parents. Because she is never home I get stuck doing all the chores. She lies to my parents about where she is going with her boyfriend. Also, she never follow their rules. She hardly ever is home by curfew and when my parents put her on restriction she simply doesn't care. Almost every day she will tell my parents that she and her boyfriend are going "fishing" but really they are having sex at his house. It makes me so mad that she gets away with all of this. Also, she is so mean to me. I often will invite her to go to the lake or river and she gets mean and never wants to go. We used to be really close and got along but now it has all changed. Is there anything I can do? I have tried talking to my parents but nothing seems to work?
2007-06-22 05:43:31 · 5 answers · asked by Chelsea 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
My parents know she is having sex. She is on birth control. And it's not that I want her to change. I just want to know how to deal with her. I don't complain about doing all the work around the house but we live on a large amount of land and we have a lot of animals to take care of and it really drives me crazy that I have to do EVERYTHING.
2007-06-22 06:09:12 · update #1
Older sisters can be jerks like that. She is just trying to assert her independence, and also show everyone that she has no respect for them. She should be nice to you since you know all her secrets. What's to keep you from telling your parents? Loyalty to a meanie sister? Your parents should realize that its not fair to you to do all the chores just because your're home. They should be equal and tell your sister to stay home until her share is done. PLease don't look to her as a role model!!!
2007-06-22 05:57:23 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
First of all the only person you can control is you so you cannot put the squash on anything she is doing. She makes her choices and you make yours so you need to decide...is this going to really bother you or not? Choose your reaction and what's best for you. If you have to pick up the slack so what? Life is all about pitching in. Nothing is equal and fair - it's how you look at things that makes the difference. Change up the attitude because I'm sure it's not making things any easier for your parents. This is a stage in life when you all need to start doing more independent things away from them so they can't be trying to control everything she is doing because she will just pull away further. Let her go - so what? She's learning. If you don't like some of the choices she is making then don't make the same ones yourself. That's all you can is honour yourself. The only person you have to live with forever is you.
2007-06-22 13:02:55 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
sometimes people grow apart... She has different interests than you now and she is growing up...learning new things and thinks she is invincible...as for you I think you should try to avoid her if she doesn't want to talk to you but always remember that she is your sister and be there for her...I honestly think that she is going trough a tough time, even though it might seem opposite but the truth is she is hurting inside, hiding it with her boyfriend and her attitude, putting a show but really she is miserable inside...
she is looking for attention in the wrong places. I can't even imagine what she really is doing but I'm sure it's no good.
Just be there for her and be nice to her, maybe she will open up to you, she needs you even if it seems that she doesn't.. as for your parents tell them you are concerned for your sister and tell them what you know, it's up to them to decide if they want to say something to your sister but as long as you tell them what you know then it's off your conscience..
I hope everything works out for you and your family, best wishes...
2007-06-22 13:01:36 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its time to talk to your parents firmly, and tell them it is not right you have to do all the chores while your sister is out with her boyfriend. Also tell themthe truth you have concerns regarding your sister as she has been lying to them and she is sexually active with her boyfriend. Tell them she treats you like crap because you know her secret. Your sister wont speak with you but thats fine she will eventally come arround. Its better for you to tell your parents the truth before your sister get pregnant or some disease.
2007-06-22 12:57:35 · answer #4 · answered by beliz 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Her days are numbered...something will happen, it always does....someone wil catch her, she'll get pregnant, and then she will need her family....all good things must come to an end.
2007-06-22 13:07:24 · answer #5 · answered by deb 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋