i don' feel i can talk to my parents about my problems do u feel like this?

Question

even though my mum says i can i just can't . even if someone ask me out i can't tell them y is this? xxx

Answer 1

i find it easier to talk to my friends about what's going on in my life. i like you don't feel comfortable talking to my parents about personal things.

Answer 2

I think most teens have this difficulty at times. The reason is, you are growing up toward adulthood. You want to solve your own problems and make your own decisions. You may not really be ready to do this all the time yet. You are kind of between childhood and adulthood.
And your parents feel these same things: they want to protect and care for you like a child, yet they want you to be responsible like an adult, and they know you are in between.
They have more experience than you, and they know they could give you some good advice, but you are starting to think for yourself and come up with your own solutions; some are good and some not so good. You need to do this, and learn from your own experience as well as from others. It's an awkward time.

Answer 3

Hi most sons or daughters feel this may. its mostly when your in a situation when you think your doing something wrong, when your not but you think there going to be ashamed or angry with you if you try to tell them whats wrong. Now I am older is only when I feel I can talk to my parents but then again I choose not to,Its a strange situation.

But when I have kids I never want them to be frightened to tell me anything as it just causes problems for them in later life. even if i am angry about it, shouting and screaming at my child is only going to put them off from confiding me all the more and i dont want that. life is suppose to be fun and people learn from there mistakes and people need advice

I think the older generation and old fashioned parents know how to dicipline there children but not to talk to them and offer advice so then you feel you cant talk to them. Its the same with brothers and sisters, there brought up the same way you have been so they probably feel they cant talk about personall stuff ever when they should be the ones that you can talk too.

The only way is to try and talk to you mum and see how she reacts. you often find its not how you would expect them to act, and if they act like you do expect then you dont tell them anything ever again. and then find someone you can talk to. Nowaday things are so different now than they were in days when you mum was younger and sometimes they dont understand. But you will never know if you dont talk to her. Mums should be kind of like sisters rather than just mums.
I hope my children will be like this with me as its really hard when you have noone to talk to.

Answer 4

I was the same way when I was young and there's still some things I don't tell my mom. Not because I'm scared of her response, but just because it's none of her business!

You're afraid she won't approve and she might not but that doesn't matter.

Don't worry! Your mom is going to love you no matter what. That's what mom's do. Even if you're an axe murder. She might not be proud, but deep down she's still going to love you.

She might be angry and she might yell but she will still love you. She might not back you in everything you do (especially if she knows it's wrong) and she might try and force you to do or listen to things you don't want to.

But she will still love you.

I didn't realize this until I became a mom. Some days I don't like what my son does or says. Some days I don't like his thoughts or opinions. But he's my son and even if I don't agree, I love him and I'm proud of him for having his own idea's and being brave enough to walk his own road.

Answer 5

When I was a teenager, I felt the same way.
I never felt comfortable talking to my parents about anything.

But now that I'm a Mom, I do want my kids to come and talk to me about anything.
And I think they do, for the most part.
My daughter has talked to me about her friends drinking, doing drugs, having sex.
And this is what makes us closer, being that we "do" talk about anything.

So I'm sure your parents would want you to come to them to talk about anything that's bothering you.
And if you still feel like you can't talk to them , what about another adult? An Aunt?

Give it a try, what do you have to lose?

Just ask your Mom is you can talk to her? I'm sure she will invite the conversation.

Good luck!!!

Answer 6

i felt the same as you once. I think it was just because i was embarrassed by it all. I can talk to my mum now, but i am a parent myself now, so i do hope my children find the courage to talk to me more when they get older!! Try talking to her when she is on her own. Us mums aren't all that bad and we do listen.

Answer 7

it's always like that.... you never feel you can trust your parents, but sometimes you can trust others.... right
then your parents get mad cause eventually they find out and it's too late or they get mad cause they found out last
trust them..... with most of your personal life, they have gone through things you're bearly going through right now..... take in mind their suggestions and make your choices the ones you feel are the correct ones.....
sometimes the only way to know is trying it out..... and thats the only way to learn..... even if it's the wrong thing to do

Answer 8

i used to have the same problem when i was in high school. i couldn't EVER talk to them about anything. but finally wanting to so badly share with them what was going on in my life, i just did one day. i even went as far as telling my mom that my boyfriend and i were having sex!! lol...yeah!
so just go for it. they want to know you too...it will make you feel so much better and you will have the best relationship with your parents ever...=)

Answer 9

I think everyone is the same - there are things you tell your parents and things you don't. Sometimes friends can be more of a help - and less judgemental.

Answer 10

maybe you don't feel like they will undestand you.i would love to share my problems with my mom,but when i told her about my friends,problems or anything,she don't want to listen and didnt seems intrested.i got fed up and i stop telling her anything and found a chat friend/s to talk with..then,she complained about me talking to strangers! you should be grateful u have a mom that wants to share,but it's ok if you don't feel comfortable telling them about your problems.there are just some teenagers who dont feel comfortable doing that.