I had a baby last year and now I'm due in a few months. My friends want me to have a baby shower, but I don't know if I should, I was told that it is tacky to have a baby shower after the first baby. I threw my cousin a baby shower a few days ago and this is her 9th baby. No one said anything and she's had them with all of her kids. What I'm asking really is it really tacky to have a baby shower the second time, should I tell them I don't want one?
2007-06-22 04:55:50 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
Sweetie, I LOVE the idea of a "sprinkle"!!!! Your friend approached you about the shower, so apparently it's something they want to do. You could have the Sprinkle, and only include these close friends and relatives that are okay with a 2nd shower. Look, hon, it doesn't matter what you do------somebody is going to think it's the wrong thing! My Mother always told me that as long as folks are talking about you, they're leaving somebody else alone......so I try to live so that others get ALOT OF BREAKS!!!! ha Good luck, and let us know how it turns out for you. Take care.
2007-06-22 05:30:49 · answer #1 · answered by MAGGIE MAE 4 · 4⤊ 1⤋
I've heard it was wrong also, and I would have never thought that considering I thought a shower was supposed to not only provide gifts for the baby but just to celebrate a new baby coming into the world! I have 2 daughters 4 yrs old and 1 1/2 yrs old and I had a shower with both of them, and all of my friends and in-laws have had a shower for each child. I don't know if it's selfish or not ethical, but I think it's completely fine. If you don't want to have a 'shower' you could do a 'diaper party' where everyone brings you diapers. You can never have enough diapers! Good luck and have fun!
2016-05-17 10:53:59 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, it is tacky. The reason for a baby shower is not only to celebrate the birth of a child but to help you with the items you will need for that child. Since you just had a child a year ago you should still have the basic stuff needed for the 2nd child. If grandparents, aunts, uncles etc. want to get the child something special then that's up to them but it's okay for you to tell your friends you don't want a baby shower. The only need for a 2nd shower is if you have your children several years apart and you've already gotten rid of the stuff from the first child when you get pregnant with your 2nd.
2007-06-22 05:04:44 · answer #3 · answered by SassyB 3 · 3⤊ 1⤋
True etiquette calls for baby showers only for the first child, and NEVER to be thrown by a member of the family.
However, people these days are so greedy they have showers and register for every event they can think of.
The purpose of a shower is to help the mother prepare for a baby - you are clearly prepared as you already have one child, and there is no need for another shower. You can politely decline and instead offer to host a little get-together a few weeks after the baby's born.
2007-06-22 05:29:44 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
Do you need anything? The reason most people don't have a second baby shower is that you got a lot of stuff during the first one. Maybe you could just invite your friends over to celebrate, with the stipulation that they only contribute to the pot luck and NOT bring gifts? I'm sure they would love to get together with you, but some people do get tired of the constant gift giving.
2007-06-22 05:02:00 · answer #5 · answered by Annie 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Strictly speaking, the point is to "shower" with gifts someone who is going to need a lot of stuff they didn't need before.
Once you've had a baby, you have the basic stuff for bathing, a place for the baby to sleep, and so on.
However, if your friends tend to have parties for every baby, there's no real harm in that.
Maybe just have a party, and don't call it a shower.
Pretend not to notice who does and doesn't bring a gift.
2007-06-22 09:40:22 · answer #6 · answered by tehabwa 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think the choice should be yours. if you don't want one, then don't have one.
in my opinion, it doesn't matter if it's the first baby or the 9th baby.... you're still going to need things for it, diapers, new bottles, new diaper bag, etc. a baby shower is also a celebration of that new baby's impending arrival.
and, no matter how many hand-me-downs you have, it's always nice to have a few new outfits for the new one.
whoever told you that having another shower would be tacky is being ridiculous. do what makes you feel right and happy. having a new baby should be a happy occasion, not one filled with stress b/c of other people's misplaced opinions and advice.
2007-06-22 05:10:02 · answer #7 · answered by Rebekah 2 · 2⤊ 2⤋
It would be tacky if you went around to all your friends and said, "Hey - how about throwing me a baby shower?" But that isn't the case here. They want to do this for you. And baby showers can be fun, so smile and enjoy it. There's no limit to the number of baby showers you can have.
2007-06-22 05:02:29 · answer #8 · answered by old lady 7 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Ettiquette says showers (wedding and baby) are for the firsts only. People have become more lax on this. It all depends on your circle of friends. If they are really into what is proper, then it's probably not a good ides. Most people aren't anymore, especially close friends. So, if your friends want to have one for you, go for it.
2007-06-22 05:27:12 · answer #9 · answered by J M 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Instead of a shower have a "Sprinkle". Insist that no one gets anything extravagent unless the baby is a different gender than the first. Have people just come and celebrate your pregnancy and the upcoming birth.
2007-06-22 05:02:00 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋