Guy likes to play mind games?

Question

Should I call him? Or just forget it...or am I just overreacting?
if a guy you have been talking to asked you to call him later first, but since you are tired of calling him all the time...you tell him to call you later instead. what does it mean if he hasn't called you in a week even though he told you, " yeah, you are a very attractive girl." after asking him if he even likes you?

i stopped calling b/c he told me he was talking to two other girls b4 he started to hang out with me. i was mad about this. do i have a right to be mad? or am i overreacting b/c we were not exclusive. i want to call him, but if i do, then he wins. what do you guys think?

this past weekend I sent him a msg on myspace that said "someone is too busy to say 'hi'. can we say 'whore?" and he wrote me a msg that said 'hi'. i commented him back by saying "smart ***".


yesterday I finally called him and played it cool, as if I didn't even remember what our last convo was about. he asked where i have been and how come i have not called him in a while. I just told him i was busy and had things to do, which was true. i told him i got a new job and the only thing he really wanted to know was if i was talking to any guys and if so what their name was. i mentioned i got a new car and he suggested i come over to his house sometime after work during this week. I told him if i have nothing to do and if im up for it. Am i doing the right thing by still talking to him?

this past friday he finally called me first for once arounf 11 pm, but I didn't answer. i didn't want him to think I will always answer his calls. So the next day, he called again but this time around 3 pm. Again, I din't answer. THEN he called me at midnight. I finally answered to see what he wanted. I'm not fully understanding why exactly he is calling me all of a sudden. can anyone think why? we've known each other for about 5 years now.

Answer 1

Okay first off your playing silly games, not him. You wanted him to call u so much, but when he call u dont answer. Your acting like you dont like him anymore. If he was talking to two other girls, you cant be mad because they came before you and you two arn't mutual exclusive. One thing I can tell you is that your on his mind noticing that you havent called him in a few days. however, from a guys point of view, if you want him you have to get him. You have 2 other girls after the same guy there all comp. Do what you can to get what you want, just dont degrade your self.

Answer 2

Can't be mad at him for seeing other girls unless you are exclusive or unless he lied to you about seeing them. You have a right to know if he's seeing other people. If you aren't exclusive, then you can't have a problem with it though.

He's playing games. So are you though. If the games aren't fun - then the game is bound to not have a good ending. So better you grab the "get out of jail free" card now and go. You could be playing these games forever. Do you feel like doing that? Hmmmm?

Answer 3

Why be mad at a guy who talked to girls before you? Its not really cheating because it happened before you. If you're not even dating, you can't expect him to to be exclusive. From his view, he's as free as a bird if there's no bf title with anyone.

I think you may be overreacting on this one. But its fine, we all do it.

You said something about him winning if you call... Is it about pride all of a sudden? Its all right to shed it and talk to someone. Love should matter more I think. Go ahead and become exclusive with him if you want him to just be with you. If he continues seeing otehr girls, drop him.

I can't really say he's playing mind games though. There's not enough sufficient evidence to prove it.

Answer 4

Ok, a little TMI for one question Sweety. Gotta narrow this stuff down. However, I want to answer one thing. You have no right to get angry at him for dating other girls before you... none. The past is past, and for you to judge him that way is so wrong. Just relax. Call him. You're in a budding relationship. None of it is easy... go slow, with no judgments, no expectations, and no prejudice. You'll enjoy it SO much more.

Answer 5

If you want to just mess around (no strings attached) then call him. But be careful with his STDs, he is probably messing around with other girls.
If you are looking for a serious relationship then don't call him, start talking to other guys.
Some advice: someone interested in you will always call you.

Answer 6

girl, you can do much better than this.....drop him and move on because it seems to me that he doesnt like you. he just wants ppl to think he has a lot of girls chasing him. thats why he doesn't call you as much as you do him. callin you at 11pm? that is too late in my eyes. mama used to tell me that when a guy does things like that, its a booty call. why waste ur time on someone who has other girls, so he says. find you someone that only wants to be with you.....then he asks u if you have other guys? yeah, he's tellin you right there that he doesnt want you and that you should move on. get that dirt off ya shoulder, girl!!!!

Answer 7

You have to do what you feel is right for you. If he's treating you with respect then he warrants respect back but if you don't feel good about the way he's treating you then perhaps he's just not treating you right. It sounds like he just wants to have fun with whomever and whenever. If this is right for you then it's right. If you don't feel it's right, it's up to you to change things.

Answer 8

90% of guys like to be treated like ****, they like to be ignored even if they dont admit it. they like chasing. he may think you are a pretty girl and, but you are not his priority. he is not very interested, so stop looking for him. you did the right thing by not aswering his calls and now he is calling you, doesn't make sense.

Answer 9

If he's playing mind games, then no. You shouldn't call him. You can do better. I am not sure why you are even talking to him at all. He's obviously playing you.

Answer 10

i think that you have a right to be mad that he was seein other girls and that he hasn't called you in a week but you have to decide if hes worth it