My nephew is 6yrs old and he has a nasty attitude towards my son who is 22 1/2mths. What do I do.?

Question

He ( my nephew) thinks he is the boss and if I tell him to leave my son alone he is only a baby he will respond with mind your buisness or your not the boss of me. The problem is I live here with him and my parents and my brother my nephews dad. I am at my wits end with him and his nasty attitude.

Answer 1

What does your brother do, when his son (your nephew) says that you are not the boss of him? If your brother doesn't support you and tell his son to stop disrespecting you and harrassing his cousin, then you need to address that with your brother. That may help...

If not, you need to handle in this way:
If your nephew acts that way, remove his cousin and yourself from the situation. Walk away! You are not his parent and you shouldn't be disciplining, but your son is your responsibility and you do not have to listen to a 6 year old tell you what to do! Go outside and take a walk with your son. Tell your nephew that he can only come with you if he is being nice to you and his cousin.

Answer 2

Its natural for him to boss your son, note I said natural not right. It's the same way with siblings, another one comes along and they finally have someone to boss around. I am always telling my oldest daughter, you are not the mommy, because she is so bossy to my youngest. That said he should NOT talk to you like that, one you are an adult and two you are his aunt. You need to have a talk with your brother about his son talking to you like that. If that does not work and you cannot move out, then simply tell him you do no talk to rude little boys, or if he ask you for something just tell him when he can talk to you with respect you will help him until then ask someone else. Sometimes kids have to be treated the way they are treating you to fully grasp it, of course don't go to far remember he is only 6 and 3 families in one house has to be hard for all of you.

Answer 3

Talk to your brother- tell him how you feel. If your Nephew comes at you with the "You're not the boss of me." line again- tell him "No, I'm not but your Dad (or whoever is more domineering in his world) is and I will be speaking with him about your disrespectful behavior when he gets home." or you can say "No, but I'm the boss of ____ (your child's name) and I'm telling you to stop doing that to him."... If he doesn't listen you could put him in time out or depending on your family's beliefs you could spank him. I would talk to your brother first though- this seems like something that needs to be dealt with via his parents.

Good Luck!

Answer 4

Scold him. If she respond that(what u mentioned), tell him that yes I'm not your boss or this is my business, if anything or everything concerned about my son that had anything related to you(the nephew) is related to me.
Man, I cant stand kids above 12 yr behaved like that in front of me. I find a way to get him irritated or get under his nerv, and compete with him; who's the boss.
I always get my revenge.
One thing is, I want them to respect me, if I am a stranger, respect me as a stranger or if I am a mother, respect me as a mother.

Answer 5

I know how you feel,its normal to want to protect your own child, but its jealousy(from your nephew's side), you need to ignore the situation, but be in charge of the situation. Dont make a fuss, but don't leave your son with him on his own, your nephew feels threatend by the attention your son is getting, someone needs to give him personal attention, you could try and play with him and tell him somethings that he did hen he was your sons age, make him feel important too , so he doesn't feel left out.

Answer 6

If your brother does not do anything about it.. take charge.. put your nephew in his place.. cuz if he is like this at a young age.. once he gets older will act more horrible than right now. Talk to him serious with a serious face and will get the hang of respecting elders.!

Answer 7

Sounds like the entire household needs to address the issue, instead of just u. Have your brother talk to his boy and together with the rest of the members of the household, teach him first.....to respect you as an adult. And 2). Teach him how to react with an infant and how to play lightly and gently.

I think u are fighting a useless battle without the assistance of the rest of the family members in the household. He obviously has no respect for you and your authority.....so I would start there.

Good luck to u and congrats.

Answer 8

Tell him you are to the boss of him when it comes to your child and he can just listen or you will talk to his Dad. Then do it. If your brother doesnt do anything then you need to keep it up until he learns to treat the younger one nicely.

Answer 9

Your nephew is 6 and nonetheless has a Binky??i might desire to work out if there is something mentally incorrect with the youngster, yet while not this is merely infantile. i could take his away, and if he sees your nephew merely tell him that it fairly is undesirable for him, if he insist placed something that he certainly dislikes on the Binky, and placed it in his mouth. he won't pick it anymore.stable success!

Answer 10

You need to remember this is new to him, he was there by himself and now someone has moved in on his territory. Make things fun for them to do together and when he sees that they can play together things will change remember you are the adult, and he is the child. put him in time out. but the best bet is to get things they can play with together, at first get in the floor with them and then you can slowly back out of the situation.