i'm getting married in 6 weeks. my whole life i've always looked at my boyfriend as though there will never be a permanent fix in my life. i think i must have that ingrained in my head pretty deep cuz with my fiance, i sometimes forget that this is for good. he's the one i;m going to grow old with and it's scary sometimes.
sometimes when we fight, i find myself thinking "that's ok. it's not like he'll be around forever." and i'll catch myself thinking that and it shocks me why i think that still towards a man i'm about to marry.
what's wrong w/ me? am i thinking like this is 'cuz i've had this way of thinking for over 15 years of my dating life? or am i thinking this way is cuz he's not the one for me? but i know i love him more than life itself? i really do.
i'm confused???
serious answers only please
2007-06-22 04:15:34 · 6 answers · asked by Shrimpboat 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I think that unless your 100% sure about this you need to think can I find do I desrve better maybe you should set the wedding for a further date my advce is that you should talk to him about this maybe you can fix things only you can decide whats right
2007-06-22 04:23:42 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You might have always told yourself that "this guy won't be around long" as an escape route to actually confronting your issues in relationships. First off everyone has issues in their relationship- It's just a matter of how serious and is it something that can be worked on. It's just a communication issue- It seems to me that you are an independent woman so really you don't think you need a man at times and you will be fine alone but then you love him- Face your issues sweetie and marry the man!
2007-06-22 04:26:47 · answer #2 · answered by Mya'sMommy♥ 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
These uncertainties are common in the human experience here and at this time, however, with trust and faith in the right higher power we can find our correct path in this life and the life to come. Contact with this one true higher power must be made and help from Him will be supplied so that you can make the correct decision and alleviate your confusion. Find help at www.amazingfacts.org. I tried it in 1973 and married, however, to this day am not absolutely sure it was the right decision, so maybe you will do better at this than I, but it is our only shot. What can we do but take our best shot?
If you need more time postpone the wedding!
2007-06-22 04:24:01 · answer #3 · answered by Toosense3 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You sound confused. Are you sure about spending the rest of your life with him? Maybe you two should have a serious talk and see if ya'll still have feelings for each other. Make sure you two are really in love and are sure about what ya'll are going to do. You can't get married just because you think you have to. You'll eventually have problems if you get married for the wrong reason. Talk.
2007-06-22 04:25:48 · answer #4 · answered by just me 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You may be having commitment issues that you must resolve within yourself*. It is better to deal with them now*. All people have disagreements whether married or not *. It doesn't mean they don't love you or you them*. Two people cannot agree on everything*. I think you are just nervous and suffering temporary anxiety because this is a big step and commitment to make*. It would not be normal to not be*. The most important thing is that you love him and he you and are willing to travel , and learn, grow and experience life together and build a future together as one, yet separate people with your own individuality intact*. No one can make you happy but yourself*, They can only contribute to the happiness you already have within yourself*. Best Wishes and happy Trails*.
2007-06-22 05:17:17 · answer #5 · answered by dca2003311@yahoo.com 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
why are you getting married for if you feel this way
2007-06-22 04:19:56 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋