ok i work with this guy who is a lot older than me I'm 18 and he's 35 i look a lot older and he looks a lot younger I think something will end up happening but if it did it would just be a one of thing is there to much of an age gap...We somtimes work together on a farm and he is one of those rugged good looking types...? i know it is just lust i think its the same for him as well so here are no crossed wires! deep down i know he is to old for me bu i just want him thats not wrong is it???
2007-06-22 03:54:00 · 32 answers · asked by %getupkids% 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It's going to be VERY difficult for the two of you to last. There's eights years difference between me and my wife, and that's been hard to work through.
You're in two different stages of life, which at 18 you're not going to fully understand that. Just think of you and a 13 year old, two different stages, barely that's only 5 years.
The biggest problem will probably be him treating you like a little girl. However, you can grow into each other it would just be very hard and take a long time, long enough that you may be separated before it happens.
2007-06-22 04:02:21 · answer #1 · answered by ahhgodzirra 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There's no "right" or "wrong" in a situation like this. If you find each other attractive, go for it. If you were a minor, it would be criminal behavior, but at 18, you're considered a legal adult. One caveat though, it isn't always a good idea to have a relationship with a fellow worker. If the relationship should end, it would be awkward working together. If this doesn't bother you, then do as you think best. The fact that you're unsure of this relationship makes me want to advise you to do a little more thinking about this situation. Good luck!
2007-06-22 03:59:49 · answer #2 · answered by Elaine P...is for Poetry 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Attraction is not wrong but there are a few things you should know. Generally men who go for much younger women want someone they can control, who does not threaten them, and then they feel like the superhero because the young woman is so enthralled with the older man. But sooner or later, you grow up, and don't want to be controlled, and are less naive......That's when the trouble begins. Stick to guys in your own age group.
2007-06-22 03:59:36 · answer #3 · answered by Barbara B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes he's too old for you, it's a 17 year gap! That's almost your whole existence on this earth. 17 years IS alot when you are as young as you are now; in a few years as you mature it seems to get less and less of a difference or even an issue.
My man and I have a 15 year gap between us, but we met when I was 24 and now I'm 30. There are STILL days when I question myself about our age difference, what will happen when he's old, when he's gone and I'm left alone; but I LOVE him. He's the one for me.
Something you have to ask yourself is....is he out for some young p*&%$y or is he really into you??
2007-06-22 04:04:31 · answer #4 · answered by wendyclearjune 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its legal but pretty weird. I can guarantee if a 35 year old likes an 18 year old in that way, something is very wrong with him.
2007-06-22 03:57:23 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My husband is 10 years older than me, but we met when I was in early twenty's. Personally my 'cut off' age would be before any one that is old enough to be my biological parent! It just gets way to difficult - with a variety of generational issues!
2007-06-22 04:07:44 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, sometimes if you like a person, and you love the person down in the heart no problem how old the person is as long as the person you like also like you back.
2007-06-22 03:59:23 · answer #7 · answered by Ali Ramin M 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah, he is definitely too old for you. Keep him in your life for a couple years...date other guys, if he sticks around-give him a chance when you are 20 or 21. That way you will know he wants you for more than just sex.
2007-06-22 03:56:41 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
if yu luv him, thts all yu need...i kno this lady who married a guy who was like 10 years older than her but she look happy although the husband sometimes seen as the father of the lady...but she dont regret the fact tht they are married.
2007-06-22 03:58:48 · answer #9 · answered by goofy's child 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off . .age is just a number. if your attracted to this man then go for it. No one can stop you.
If you and him have agreed this hook up is for "fun" or just "sex" then it's totally up to you.
but if you want more with him, but he doesn't from you.. Then I would pass it up, because you would get hurt in the end..
Good luck!!
2007-06-22 03:58:34 · answer #10 · answered by jenjen2_46514 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋