2007-06-22 03:50:47 · 25 answers · asked by Forever Brooklyn 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
Protective is ok, but dont make it where your boys get Jealous or she starts getting jealous and shuns you. Too much can push her away and cause her to sneak, remember that. Rather be her friend than her warden. My grandmother swears that if she didnt have a daughter, none of her kids would care about her. Familys usually go towards the woman's side, so you'll have her there down the road to take care of you. My fience and his sister are in their 20's and still fight. I do see different tratment towards his sister and i think its rude to rub it in his face. She is a little unstable, but that no excuse to be her enabler. Good luck.
2007-06-22 03:57:10 · answer #1 · answered by Lyndsey R 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No it absolutely isn't bad to be very protective over your little daughter.Being very protective is being cautious and and it does help in many tricky situations which rise in the lives of the daughters. We aren't always with them to give the cautionary words. But the habits inculcated do allow them to have the better judgment with them. Well many a times just being a girl is a reason for many hesitations , open to many vulnerable situations and well much that need a lot of time and space to add to. I was brought up in a mostly male home where lots of cousin brothers and brothers and also a military school ---so I know that confidence adds a lot to looking and taking up views about people specially handling difficult situations with the opposite sex. Yes dear parent it is always good to be very protective to your daughter but more so to prepare her step by step for the further more wider horizon.
2007-06-22 04:28:33 · answer #2 · answered by sunita s 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My hubby has a saying that goes: With a son, you only have to worry about one peni$. With a daughter, you have to worry about all of them.
This quote isn't meant to offend, but it does show that there's a double standard when it comes to sons and daughters. It's ok to be a little more protective, but make sure she gets enough elbow room as she grows. Especially if she's a good girl and trustworthy daughter.
2007-06-22 04:13:34 · answer #3 · answered by ladyscott 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have older sons and our daughter is the youngest. Raising teenaged girls is so much more difficult, in my opinion. Being protective is normal and necessary. However, being over-protective tends to backfire. Girls who feel overly protected and constrained tend to respond with some rebellion at least for a season. It's important to communicate clearly, have clear boundaries, allow her to voice her opinions, develop the art of negotiation, and establish clear consequences if she breaks the rules.
One of the best things my husband did for our teenage daughter was to "date" her once a week. They went to the movies, out to eat, visited art museums, go to the beach, etc. They never dicussed rules or problems during this time and it really helped keep the relationship strong.
2007-06-22 03:59:55 · answer #4 · answered by Lacey G 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It should be about even depending on maturity.....but I don't know how old your children are but my husband and I have talked about how we wil be with ours (2 girls 1 boy) I'll tell you the same thing I told him...when they get older, My son will have the same rules as my daughters if not more when it comes to dating! They can only get pregnant about every nine months he could be out spreading the seed everday several times a day.
2007-06-22 03:57:31 · answer #5 · answered by ryeeeeit 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, your daughter needs more protection. However, you still need to be somewhat protective over your sons.
2007-06-22 03:58:06 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My parents were much more protective with me than my twin brother. They would always frame it in terms of maturity "sorry honey, but you know he is better on his own than you are, he does not get lost, he is more aware of his surroundings, he does not talk to strangers, he keeps track of his money" etc. I think this was good because they pointed out concrete things I needed to work on, instead of just instilling a fear and paranoia of the "big bad world". But putting it in terms of her gender only will make her feel frustrated, jealous of her brothers and angry at you, and she might act out on these feelings later, getting "back" at you by taking double the risks that you were protecting her from. It is nice to feel protected by your parents (yours sons need it too) but not overprotected!
2007-06-22 04:28:08 · answer #7 · answered by kallista 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
not at all because that could just mean that you see your daughter as more fragile than your three sons, or that you find that your three sons are older, stronger, more mature and quite capable of protecting themselves, and you don't feel you have to worry about them as much. (when i said protecting themselves, i just couldn't find another way to say it - nothing is going to happen to them, and i apologize for my bad wording)
Just try to make sure you treat all of your children equally in all other aspects, and you will be fine.
2007-06-22 03:57:46 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is it bad, no. Is it normal to be more protective over a girl than boys, yes. ask every dad in the world.
2007-06-22 03:54:04 · answer #9 · answered by cheyenne 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. I see that in every family unless they are all girls (lucky me lol). I have a younger sister and a younger brother. But somehow everyone seems to be more over protective over her. And it drives her crazy since me and my brother get more "freedom" but there are some nasty guys out there that can do harm to any girl of any age.
2007-06-22 03:56:12 · answer #10 · answered by The Dark Knight 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋