I met a dude and we met up onec and talked on the phone he seemed nice and he came over last nite. Before he came over he said he wanted us to have sex and etc i said ok I dont know hy guess was just lonely from my ex etc. So any way he came over and he got upset when i said i had changed my mind he said he didnt like being lied to and left. He then txt saying to delete his numebr to which i replied ok then take care all the best. Part of me thinks i should have said what the hell and had no strings sex and get my ex out my system once and for all part of me thinks i dont know! Do you think i should call him or just be lonely and hung up over the ex?
I dont really meet loads of guys and i am tired of being alone!
2007-06-22 03:24:46 · 25 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
you did the right thing hes a jerk. the last thing you need would have to become pregnant. He sure wouldnt have been there for you
2007-06-22 03:30:38 · answer #1 · answered by GA 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You did right! Would you have respected yourself today? That's really trite crap, I know. I've been there, had a one night stand, well several one night stands! The physical, sexual release at the time is okay for that half hour (if you're lucky! - more like 5 mins!). Hell, get a vibrator! Don't call the guy from last night. Did you maybe meet him on an internet chat site? It's not always a bad thing - but most often it doesn't work. One or other of you only wants sex. You weren't comfortable with that when it came down to it, so you did the right thing. My advice would only be, don't invite anyone to your home or go to theirs unless you are REALLY sure that you understand what each of you wants and agree on that. If you both agree that it's only for sex - then fine, go for it! No strings attached won't help to get your ex out of your system though. That just takes time. In the interval, like I said - a vibrator or your right hand (or left, if you're left handed - but that's a whole other question!) It works for both genders!There's no easy fix to get over an ex. I wish there was. Time is all that helps. I know that that is no effing use right now. The pain only eases, it doesn't leave. It just makes you a stronger person.
2007-06-22 10:55:34 · answer #2 · answered by annie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The guy is a loser, don't call him. You are lonely, and he knew this when he came to see you. Because you told him you would have sex with him he saw you purely as someone to have sex with. He would not have been there for you if you had had sex, he would have just used you for sex whenever he had nothing better to do. He was annoyed because he expected sex from you and you didn't deliver, but if you had he would not have respected you. Men really do see women on two different levels. Ones to have sex with, and ones to respect and have relationships with. They only respect the women who won't let them sleep with them until they give them their respect. It sounds confusing, but basically if you want a man to respect you, you have to show him that you are more than just someone to have sex with. If at all possible never sleep with a guy on a first date, and certainly never say you will before you've even met him. That just makes you look completely desperate in his eyes, and desperate women are never respected. Be more carefull in the future and don't let a guy know how lonely you feel or he may try to take advantage of it.
2007-06-22 11:41:55 · answer #3 · answered by pamperpooch39 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
awh babz...thats a really bad feeling your having right now being lonely without your ex. But believe me you did the right thing not sleeping with that guy. seriously.
You'd feel 10 times worse after it happened...lonely for your ex and used from the other guy.
Your worth more than a one night fling and no strings sex wont get your ex outta your system, unfortunately you have to go through the pain..but it gets better believe me.
You need to learn to love yourself and treat yourself the way you want other people to treat you. I know its hard being lonely, but hang in there and someone will come along to distract you from your ex and treat you like the princess you are.
Take Care
Hugs xx orlaith xx
2007-06-22 10:33:32 · answer #4 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hmmmm...your life, so it's your choice, right?
On the other hand...maybe subconsciously you just wanted company (being lonely and all) and agreed to his wishes. Then when this seemingly "nice guy" came over for a specific purpose...you backed out (hence, your "lie")
From this guy's perspective, you're a tease, which is wrong. From your perspective, it's your life and you're right.
It all boils down to one thing. As long as you think you're right, it doesn't matter what anyone else thinks.
p.s. I don't think a one nighter will solve your problem of being hung up over your ex.
2007-06-22 10:35:40 · answer #5 · answered by Lando 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He seems really like an ***.
Don't waist your time on guys like that.
It's obvious he just wanted to use you, that's not fair.
And come on woman! Show me some girl power here!
Love yourself for who you are and how you look, believe you deserve the best, you only live once, make it perfect for yourself, don't waste your time.
I know it can be tuff being alone for long time, but better alone then bad accompanied.
Show yourself full respect, and the world would see the true beauty inside you!
2007-06-22 11:05:19 · answer #6 · answered by samantha21it 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think you should have slept with him. If he were to fly off the handle like that, and you just met....
He really over-reacted, it sounds like all he wanted you for was a booty-call, and you deserve better. Do yourself a favor and lose his number.
Don't stay hung up over the ex though, pick up a hobby or go to the gym. Exes are nothing but trouble.
2007-06-22 10:30:30 · answer #7 · answered by Roxie 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Firstly sex is all that he's after from you. He doesn't care about you or the way you're feeling. He obviously doesn't like you or he wouldn't have told you to delete his number. Even if you had slept with him, that's the only sort of relationship you would have had with him and it sounds like you need something more than that if you're sick of being alone.
2007-06-22 10:51:22 · answer #8 · answered by Heva 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The right to change your mind is not one that is open for discussion. If you choose to change your mind about having sex with someone, it is because something inside you is telling you that it isnt right at that moment. It is not lying it is changing your mind. Dont call this loser asshole, being lonely is no reason to call a ******** like this.
2007-06-22 10:32:20 · answer #9 · answered by dave n 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
What kind of twisted logic is this...
Having a one night stand with a random stranger doesn't and will never get an ex "out of your system." Only time will do that.
2007-06-22 10:28:21 · answer #10 · answered by Jared 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Make your own desisions for christ sake there are loads of people on answers like you who need validation and approval from everyone else just decide for yourself only you know i couldent care less if your the biggest whore in the solar system i wouldent judge , do what you want to do .
2007-06-22 10:58:08 · answer #11 · answered by badass-mofu 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋