non belivers. I am a christian who loves Jesus very much with all my heart?

Question

But let me ask you this, do you find many so called chrisitans judging you? Do you find a lot of them fude and offencive. I have a mental illness that I need to take medicaitons for as I have bi-polour which is horibble if you are not on the right medicaiton, as you can be depressed and cry, you can spew hate out of your mouth, you can yell a lot, you can stress out a lot, you think a lot about suicide, you put scars on your body so that your body is almost unreconisable, and yet I have these so called christians telling me to grow up and get over it. I find more compasion in this department of mental illness in atheists than christians, as all they do is judge. I am ashamed of most of the churches out there. So athiests how do christians treat you? Excuse me if I sould rude it is just I did not take my medication this morning as I am of and on with them and I need to take them everyday. I am tired of christians telling me and blaming me for my illness. If I were not on the meds at all

I would just cry and yell at everybody or most people I came into contact with. Maybe you athiests cam help me. I want to die, and yes I feel very depressed about life. I find I cannot talk to christians about this. I hate having this illness. It runs in the family.

Answer 1

Funnily enough you only got bipolar when you spewed so much hate that you needed yet another excuse for your poor behaviour!
By they way the medication you use...is not for bipolar....very strange leanne!!
Christians are rude to you because you speak hate and rubbish and claim they think the same way...who in their right mind would want to be in the same basket as you?

They are not rude Leanne YOU are and it has nothing to do with bipolar...your just a mean piece of work!
Ariel

Answer 2

You don't sound rude. My father is a bipolar--before I got married, I helped take care of him and I know of the pain you go through. Please go take your medication now. I'm not saying this to belittle you or to be bossy, but I do know how those meds can mean the difference between life and death. Your illness is not your fault, but you need that medicine. (I'm very understanding of bipolar disorder. If you ever need someone to talk to, please contact me.)

As for Christians blaming you for your illness. Yes, I am familiar with victim blaming. Most people don't understand mental illness in the first place. They think it is something that can be handled by "self-control" or "prayer." It can't. It's a medically recognized disorder caused by a chemical imbalance, not laziness or demons.

You probably find more kindness from atheists because we don't go for the "just world" philosophy. So many Christians believe that since God is supposed to be all good and all powerful, that when bad things happen to a person, it must be that person's fault because a good God wouldn't allow bad things to happen to a good person. But atheists realize that sometimes...stuff happens. As you said, bipolar runs in your family. You got the genetics for it, the same way people inherit their hair and eye color. There's no right or wrong about it. It's just there. It doesn't mean you're bad; it means you're ill and that you need medication, treatment and, above all, understanding and compassion.

As for Christians judging atheists, yes, I find I'm judged a lot. Since I'm an atheist, I can't really do anything right by their standards. Even if I do something good, I didn't really do good, because I'm supposedly evil. It really hurts at times, especially when those judgements come from my family.

Answer 3

I feel for you. I am a Christian and I deal with bouts of severe clinical depression. During those times I do draw closer to God as I feel he will get me through those life threatning times. However, I have to take meds. There is NO WAY I can function in society without them. I take 150 mg. Effexor, 150 mg. Wellbutrin and 5 mg. abilify on a daily basis. I have had other Christians tell me that all I need is Jesus and if I am in the Word and close to Him I won't need meds. That is a pile of phooey. It is no different than me needing my thyroid meds or some diabetic needing insulun. I am sorry people are judging you. I am not judging you because I truly understand. For me, taking my meds and meditating on Christ helps a lot. I have a dailly devotional called "Jesus Calling" that really helps ground me. There are a lot of inspirational devotions that can help start your day. Does your church have a support group or a counselor? Ours does and it helps many people. Most communities have Bi-Polar support groups. Just google in support groups and your town and see what comes up. Surround yourself with positive supportive people and don't listen to the hogwash of judgmental Christians who don't have a clue about mental illness. My mother quotes me scripture and says that if I am totally surrendered I wouldn't have the problems I have. Well that is bad advise and can lead a person into a bad place. Take care of yourself. God bless you. I will say a little prayer for you.

Answer 4

Well, unfortunately most Christians are afraid of people with mental illness. I understand your pain as I am a former Christian who experienced exactly what you are going through due to being bipolar myself.

Some Christians do try, but they do not understand and think it is all a matter of growing in the faith. I experienced the most hurtful remarks form those who believe in Faith Healing and Modern Day Miracles. The reason is they believe if you have enough faith and trust Jesus then you will be healed. My parents were most harmful because they were of the above mentioned thought and my dad would tell anyone who would listen that I had demons. The reason is in his mind I was possessed and if I just got on my knees and spoke in tongues then all would be well, he just forgot that I did do this many times in the 1970's.

The very worst thing a mentally ill person can do in my opinion is to believe in faith healing and stop taking medication and to believe you are being attacked and possessed by demons. Doctors go to school many years and hold a degree to help those like us.

The only thing you can do is try to love them even though it is hard and try to understand them although they refuse to understand you. Keep taking your meds and keep striving to honor your God and most of all forgive yourself, then you do things you feel you should not and always remember you have a legitimate disease, but at the same time do not stop striving to control it yourself and with medication and above all else, when you are depressed and if you have suicidal thoughts, just remember this is part of your illness and just refuse to do any harm and remember that it will pass eventually.
BB

Answer 5

It is sad that you cannot find support. Due to a lack of understanding some have ascribed your illness to simple weakness as a human being. This is truly tragic. Your disease is as real as Cancer and far more insidious. Physically you can live a full lifespan but mentally every day you live is a torturous roller coaster. Find a local support group and a friend you can rely on when the suicidal thoughts come. If they are uncontrollable, have your doctor adjust the medication. Many very successful people have dealt with bi-polar and with the right combination of medication and support you can lead a full life. If you need someone to talk to, message me and I will send you my real email address.

Answer 6

Well first of all I am very sorry. I have a family member with Bio-polar disorder and know the struggle he has been through. I am sure that you are seeing a therapist but have you ever thought about going to a specialist. Someone that can really hon in on the areas you need help with and do just that. It is awful that a group of people that are supposed to be loving and caring for all could be so cruel to you. You did not as for this to happen to you. Do they treat me with the same disrespect? Yes, if not worse.

Answer 7

I am a Christian and you have to know that not everyone feels this way and that although you have bad days and your own problems, other people (christians are not excluded) have their issues and problems too. Some people have a problem with judging, some have a problem with anger, some are huge liars and some are just confused.

People are people, atheists too, we are all the same in our issues and problems.

If you are sick, see a doctor, this is not being anti-christian.
If your medication is not working, seek and pray for a solution. You must believe he will help you, however.
My ex-husband was severely depressed and I believe to be extremely troubled. He needed help and he has gotten it.
I do not think that there is anything wrong with that.

Remember God is with you, who can be against you?

If others are judging you, they will be judged in return

Answer 8

Christianity encourages a judgmental attitude. All the injunctions on the order of "Judge not lest ye be judged" really don't matter. When you have a religion that supposedly lays down a fixed standard of conduct as "righteous" and condemns all others, you wind up with people at each other's throats over who's conforming and who isn't. That's just the nature of the beast. Nobody who has really internalized the "Christian" doctrine is capable of being moral or compassionate. All they can manage is a grotesque parody of these qualities.

Until relatively recently they would've claimed you were possessed by demons, and would've treated you accordingly. Be glad you live in an age in which medication is available - thanks to the efforts of science - and in which not everybody is a superstitious savage.

Answer 9

There are things you can do to get better besides relying on religion:
Take your medication as prescribed and see if you can get some talk therapy with a counselor or psychologist.
Join a bipolar support group.
Keep a regular schedule.
Exercise daily- exercise produces endorphins in your brain that can help you feel better.
Make your bed and keep your room clean.
Take a shower and change your clothes especially when you are depressed. Sometimes getting clean and dressed up can make you feel better.

Don't use drugs or drink alcohol-it compounds your problems.
Keep busy-have goals make plans
Your quality of life can improve, but you will have to make it happen.
Above all don't give up.

Answer 10

I am a Christian and I am appalled by how other Christians are treating you. What the heck? Is that what they call love?! You have a physical disorder. My husband has OCD (Obsessive Compulsive Disorder) He is on medication and it has done wonders for him. We thank God every day for his medication. Everyone has their problems, their cross to bear. This is yours and it sounds like a hard one. Just keep taking your meds and try to focus on things that make you happy in life. Don't give up on your Christianity because of these rude and offensive people. There is a great reward for you, you know that. Don't feel bad. My friend's baby died and her pastor told her it was because she didn't have enough faith.