what would you do if you lived below a couple with a 3 year old and the mothers boy friend yells at the little girl all the time and also swears at her.
just this morning he told her to shut the f*** up and stop your f***ing crying. after this i heard a loud noise like something heavy dropped i know the grandmother she use to be the landlord of the complex i live in. the landlord we have now is the girls aunt.
i am about ready to go to my landlord and let them i know i belive that he is hitting the girl the last i knew he was not living there anymore but just this morning i heard him yelling at the little girl again.
2007-06-22 02:23:11 · 27 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
Ring social services - tell them what you told us.
2007-06-22 02:26:24 · answer #1 · answered by ? 4 · 6⤊ 1⤋
I would call your local social services and report the suspected abuse. Give them specifics - times, what was said, what you heard. If at all possible, try to make a recording of the yelling to play for the social worker. I wouldn't tell the Aunt or the Grandmother right now as their involvement may exacerbate the situation.
No child deserves to be spoken to like that and certainly no child deserves to be beaten. You are doing a good thing.
2007-06-22 02:34:50 · answer #2 · answered by Susan G 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Don't confront anyone in the family. The only people that need to get involved is child protective services. Confronting family members could cause a lot of problems for you or even for the child... Child protective services will investigate and if they find anything fishy or know for a fact there is abuse going on they will step in and alert the authorities.
2007-06-22 02:31:55 · answer #3 · answered by Glitters15 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I don't know where you live but I know that Child Protective Services is pretty much a joke here. They hassle people who do take care of their kids. But don't do anything about those who do. But I think talking to the aunt would be a good idea. But don't make accusations. Just show concern for the child. After all, You do not have actual proof. Only suspicions. If that doesn't help then try Child Protective Services.
2007-06-22 02:33:46 · answer #4 · answered by JessiCat 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
I would not talk to the aunt. I would call CPS and find out what can be done in that situation. Once they have been reported, it's only a matter of time. You will see, things will change. Plus you can be anonymous, they will never know it was you that reported them. CPS has their ways of finding things out. Even if the child does not go to school or daycare. They will be watched.
2007-06-22 02:50:14 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Nothing wrong with telling a family member what the heck is going on in that household. If they don't seem to care I'd report it to Child Services, they will investigate the claim you are making. It's their job to protect children from both physical and mental abuse!
2007-06-22 02:27:21 · answer #6 · answered by Harley 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I agree with the others who say call child protective services. Don't talk to the family. You can call CPS and stay anonymous and let them look into it. If you talk to the family they may get defensive and then even if someone else calls CPS they will think it was you. I doubt that the mother is unaware of her boyfriends behavior.
2007-06-22 02:55:39 · answer #7 · answered by kat 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell the grandmother and the aunt. If they seem like they care, or will act, then let them and just keep an eye on things.
If things continue, call the authorities.
Good for you for looking out for her. Just the thought of this makes my stomach hurt.
2007-06-22 02:27:46 · answer #8 · answered by Dalice Nelson 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Don't bother telling the other family members. They may be in denial about the whole thing. Call the police or child protective services. Your first concern should be the child!
2007-06-22 02:32:03 · answer #9 · answered by clarity 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Go straight to the authorities you dont want to put family members in a difficult position or risk alienating them from the mother or making your life more difficult if they are in denial. The mother might just need a kick up the pants to put things in perspective and find that there is help out there if her and her baby need it.
2007-06-22 02:37:04 · answer #10 · answered by Melissa S 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Call your local child welfare authorities. The reporting can be done anonymously and a visit from them does not automatically mean that the child will be removed. Do not get involved and do not let them know it was you.
2007-06-22 02:31:15 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋