i am reading an autobiograpy on someone who was abused as a child?

Question

its bringing back so many memories of my own childhood, the beating constant being told off all the time punished for nothing, and yet at the same time i am finding that it is helping me to understand why i felt so worthless, even sometimes why i still do sometimes. I find it very theraputic in a way, should it?, the book is just a boy by Richard mcCann its really helped me to understand alot even though not the same

Answer 1

Knowing why you felt worthless is good,but you never were and i hope you know now. Its great that you can realise stuff you never knew before about youreself.

Answer 2

Understanding more about oneself is always theraputic...many people have been abused as children and quite a lot of them will bury those memories and not deal with the emotional strain those memories can cause. Some people will take those experiences and pass them on to their own children. Learning how to face these things and realizing that we are good people treated badly by adults who may be been treated badly as children can help stop the chain reaction. Everyone reacts differently to abuse. For some children simply getting yelled out is as abusive as being beat with a leather strap. We each respond differently to life and the events in it. Keep reading and when you are finished with this book go find some books on improving your self image, books that will validate your worth as an important person with many good things to contribute. Stay on the positive end of this therapy and you will come out far ahead. Don't let resentment waste your energy and cloud your good judgement. And welcome to the club.

Answer 3

It is good in a way to read books which graphically go into what may have happened to you as a child, so that you realise you were not the only one this happened to. It is great that you have started on the journey of dealing with these issues but be ready that there may be more lurking inside you which will probably want to come out.

Give yourself time and patience and soon enough you will have everything off your chest and be able to move forward.

Good luck from someone who understands

YW

Answer 4

I have also read the book, twice.

It is so sad that he suffered like he did, especially when his mother had been killed by the yorkshire ripper.

have you seen the documentry about how he is doing now?
It was on TV last year, and was brilliant too.

The great thing about books, is that they really speak to people.

Yes it should be theraputic, because it is the comfort of knowing that someone else feels the same as you, and that means that you are not strange, and that your feelings are normal.

I would advise that you get councelling now, as the next step, because you can lay these demons to rest.

Good luck!
Hope this helps!

Answer 5

there is absolutley nothing wrong with that at all its expanding your mind just like therapy. it took me tons of abusive relationships til i finally went to therapy and totally realized just how abused i was as a child and teenager and i was 44 i always knew it but had kids and work and i cooked and just kept myself busy,now my kids are grown up im alone and also got a broken nose and 10 stiches in my eyelid and left the guy before i started therapy,when i was in my 20s i used to think Oh what a cop out people use this bad childhood stuff but its so true it affects your whole life. i was very kind to my kids and never was abusive i went the opposite way cause i never wanted to hurt them how i was hurt.its simple a child needs a good foundation to stand on a base ok and the good adult hood can happen healthy thinking not low self esteem that leads to lots of unhealthy way of living.

Answer 6

Try reading the Dave Pelzer trilogy ...... A Child called It, A boy Alone and A Man named Dave. The first of which, is the only book I have read from cover to cover without putting it down. I just couldnt stop, and cried all the way through.

Answer 7

I have not read that one but i have read the series of 'a boy called 'it'' they are truly the most emotional books i have read. I hope you feel better about yourself and am glad that by someone else having the bravery to tell their story has helped you in some way. have a star for being brave yourself.

Answer 8

i read a book similar to that, and then two or so years later (after I read the book) I was involved in a abusive relationship.And I am one of those people that read books multiple times. But I was scared to reread this certain book, in fear that I was going to become the main character. I ended up reading it, and I think it greatly helped me, to move on.

Answer 9

Yes read that. There are so many books out there on true life storys. Having been abused myself it was tough reading those books. Glad you have found comfort in reading the book.

Answer 10

Yes, it will help!!! Anything thinking, reading, corresponding and processing will help. It doesn't have to be the same. We have nieces who were abused and talking with them has helped me process my childhood. Keep at it. It's a lifelong procedure.