My 10 yr old has a friend who is mexican and thats fine. I really dont know this kids home life but I have talked to his mom a few times and they have invited my son to a noon to 6 birthday party (for Kevin my sons mexican friend) I really dont want him to go because I dont know if their family is 3 or 50 in the household and with all the crimes from illegal aliens Im very hesistant to send him over there > I havent told my son the feeling I have so what would you do.?Ive never heard of a kids party that lasts 6 hours.
2007-06-22 00:18:59 · 28 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
Simple solution... call the ISS right before the party is to start, they come and arrest everyone there that's illegal, then you'll not have to worry!
By the way, that's not racist at all, it's looking after your child.
2007-06-22 00:22:15 · answer #1 · answered by Adrian Hill 2 · 0⤊ 8⤋
Ok, how do you get to know the families of other kids your son plays with. You go over, introduce yourself and have yourself a little talk with them. I don't know where you get the "crimes with illegal aliens" thing.
A: You don't know if they're "legal" or not
and
B: Most illegal aliens have a lot more to lose by committing crimes than legal aliens or US citizens and if anything they make a point of keeping a low profile. Crime doesn't really cater to that. If they get in trouble they get deported.
Mexicans could teach the rest of us how to party. Children's birthday parties tend to bring the whole family and all of the friends out and they don't just pin the tail on the donkey and cut the cake. They really come together and make an occasion of it. They usually serve a meal, and the adults celebrate as much as the kids. Birthdays, quincineras, weddings and whatnot are very much like thanksgiving, christmas and other holidays that have us lingering with friends and family, however they're a lot more fun. A lot of times they have live mariachis and whatnot. I really don't know what to compare it to in other communities except to say that maybe you've gone to bbqs or parties where the company is really good and people linger a lot longer than they went there expecting to...well Latinos plan for the company to be good and they love hosting friends and family. There's nothing at all odd about the fact that this boy's party is scheduled to last 6 hours. I think you should accompany your boy to the party, not only so you can alleviate your fears but i think you'd find your opinion on Mexicans changing. Also, if you can't have fun at a Mexican party, you can't have fun anywhere. They're a blast!
2007-06-22 07:42:55 · answer #2 · answered by Carrie B 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Well, when it comes to celebrating ANYTHING mexican parties usually last all day. Its because of all the activites that are planned. Eating, games, eating some more, playing more games, dancing, opening presents. It's just an all day event. And on these occassions family and friends are a very important part. If you feel uncomfortable with him staying so long, maybe you can have him there for 3 of those 6 hours. 50 to a house hold? lol..not likely. I'm sure your son will have fun at the party. He will learn about different peoples cultures. Wouldn't you like his friend to expierence YOUR culture? Don't be closed minded and make your son "racist". There's too much of that in the world already. How do I know about these wonderful parties?..I'm Mexican....Peace.
2007-06-22 07:35:45 · answer #3 · answered by 2Bme 4 · 5⤊ 0⤋
Well, yes you should be concerned about anywhere your child goes, does not matter if it's one hour or three hours, let alone six.
Go to the party with your son, you will have fun. And it is true Hispanic culture, cook and eat all day long... Grandparents, aunt, uncles, friends etc.. come. They usually have a jumper, pinata, games etc....
You will probably meet some of the nicest ppl you have ever meet.
And if you don't feel comfortable, stay for a few hours and take your son home, this way you will not show the fear of uneasiness, and that you still care.
You might want to go to his friends house and introduce yourself and get to know his mom.....
PS... you can learn a lot of great culture cooking tips from your sons friends mom...... Relax and in your heart you will know what to do..
My advice to you is only to stay for a few hours because after awhile the men like to drink......
2007-06-22 09:24:59 · answer #4 · answered by orangie 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That is sad but at least you can admit when you are being racist. Like others have said--go with him. Check it out before he stays over there.
My husband is Mexican. My best friend is Mexican--first generation American. I'm not Mexican BUT I love 'em. LOL!
It's normal to have a Mexican party that lasts well into the night so it's surprising that it only lasts until 6:00. They may have planned activities for the boys. You never know. Call her and see what they will be doing at the party if nothing else. But, really, if you can--GO! I'm telling you parties with Mexicans are normally the best. It's part of their culture and now, my culture. Just give it a shot! Best of Luck!
2007-06-22 08:01:33 · answer #5 · answered by .vato. 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go with him. Even if its just for an hour or so to scope out the scene. My husband's family is Mexican and generally when they throw a bday party, its a party!! But whether there are 3 or 50 people the kids there are always well looked after. They're very laid back, and they don't constantly follow children, but the kids are always fine. Don't worry so much, relax! Not all mexicans are illegal immigrants, or violent!
2007-06-22 07:23:21 · answer #6 · answered by mrs.v 4 · 4⤊ 0⤋
You've never heard of a kids party that last 6 hours, because you haven't been into lots of places with different culture. If you have, well you wouldn't be questioning it...
Anyway, why don't you let your son come and stay with him. It's pretty judgemental when you start thinking about things such as crimes and stuff about their family. How would you feel if the mother who you talked to and thought you've built some connection think that way towards you? It'll be very offending isn't?
So, you better cut off those thoughts, and open up your mind that not just mexicans have those problems with crimes and stuff, all race have that. You just have to know them better before you judge them or their family.
2007-06-22 08:07:37 · answer #7 · answered by truecolours 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Go with your son to the party and plan to stay an hour or so. That way, you can see what the home is like and if you get a bad vibe, you'll be there the whole time and you can take your son home when you want. But if you see that everything is okay, then you can leave your son for the party.
2007-06-22 07:25:16 · answer #8 · answered by Nasubi 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It is not unusual for a Latino family birthday party to last several hours --it's almost like a family reunion.
My daughter is married to a Mexican and she has many Mexican friends. I have attended a few of these gatherings and it is more like a backyard barbecue with lots of food and fun for the kids.
Most of the time, the entire family is invited so you can go with him and no one will think it is odd. Go with an open mind and enjoy yourself.
2007-06-22 08:09:54 · answer #9 · answered by Marilyn E 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Slow down honey. Some groups of nationalities support longer parties or gatherings than others. This simply means they are a more social group than you are used to seeing. I don't think they would invite your son over to do him harm or for him to witness them doing anything illegal, that would be stupid of them...especially if they are illegal.
Why don't you just take a breath, talk with someone about all the anxiety you have been having lately in your life, and let the boy go have a good time and learn about a new culture.
Everything will be OK.
2007-06-22 07:23:59 · answer #10 · answered by I hate Comcast 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I can't fault you for your feelings. That said, I would just got to the party with him. Plenty of parents stay at parties. Call and rsvp, while you are on the phone,just ask "wow 12-6, what do you have planned?" of course nicely, I am curious what brave person would have a 6 hour long party for a kid. Unless it's a family thing as well.
2007-06-22 07:35:51 · answer #11 · answered by criley27 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋