what do you think? can a guy that claim he's a completely changed man, EVER change? any real stories/ experiences will be much appreciated
2007-06-21 22:10:05 · 25 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
First, let me remind you that, even before 1973, when the 'A. P. A.' eliminated homosexuality as a mental disorder, repeated studies by top mental health researchers confirmed it was virtually impossible to change someone’s sexual orientation -- even through behavioral therapy measures such as electric shock treatments and pain therapy (aversive conditioning), hypnosis, psychotropic medications, clinical/religious individual and group therapy, and others had been employed.
Abundant evidence demonstrates that sexual orientation cannot be changed even for men who are strongly motivated to change and who have voluntarily undergone extensive psychiatric therapies, involving the use of drugs and hormone injections, behaviour modification techniques, electric shock therapy, etc., in an effort to turn straight. -- The main result has been to make many therapists rich while shattering the lives of countless homosexuals.
The conclusion is inescapable: A gay guy might even stay faithful if he decided to marry a woman, (from personal experience, I am wondering how happy one who is repressing his natural sexuality could be) probably the chances are the same as faithfulness for a straight guy.
2007-06-21 23:29:29 · answer #1 · answered by Kedar 7 · 10⤊ 0⤋
I don't think so.
It is impossible to change one's sexual orientation.
However, it is not impossible for a gay man to feel liking for a woman and marry her, but it will ultimately be flawed, as he would be drawn towards his own sex yet has too maintain his obligation towards the woman. It is also possible that his sense of responsibility and liking overrides such desires and he can keep it in check.
There are many cases of such scenarios. Such as the famous writer Oscar Wilde and his wife. He felt a short-lived passion for her, it was not a happy marriage.
Thomas Mann, he married just for the sake of getting married.
As an alternative, he might just be confused before and is actually straight or he is really bisexual.
2007-06-21 22:13:10 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I don't understand what sexual orientation has to do with faithfulness.
However, as far as changing orientation goes, that sounds weird and dubious.
I knew a girl who had a bf who "turned gay" on her. It was funny because she sometimes had in the back of her mind that I would do the same thing. What a weird type of paranoia.
I think that's the more likely scenario. Someone acts straight like the majority of people because it's the norm, but then "discovers" that they're gay. The opposite could also happen I guess, discovering that you're straight.
2007-06-21 22:15:34 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
this preferences can not be changed willingly. but i don't trust any specialist saying it is simply impossible. not just because my knowledge says so, but I have seen the change. she loved her even though he always refused accepting his preferences towards same sex. so it depends on individuals. he is a real good person. and her love obviously changed him. to be practical, i can't say for sure. but i have seen them happy. and i believe it has been possible.
so it can't be told in common, it depends. nobody is perfect, you know. why hate a gay, what if he is not gay and he leaves his beloved for another woman. what preference will you give to his this sexual preference. so i prefer to that the woman to decide to or not to marry that gay guy should find in him something beautiful and smart that is beyond sexual preference to live her life with.
2007-06-21 23:30:31 · answer #4 · answered by barso 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this is an age old question, are monogamy and being faithful the same thing. monogamy is bonding to one person and building a life, straight or gay. Being faithful is having sex with that one person while in the relationship. Personally i feel that the former is possible, and the later impossible. Gay guys are not any more or less trustworthy that straight guys, getting married does not always make a difference. look at the gay dating sites and see how many married guys profiles there are.
2007-06-21 23:04:13 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Sorry I don't have any real life examples, most likely there are few if any.
I do think it is possible to be faithful to your spouse no matter who you are in fact attracted to. So if a gay man were to marry a woman he has as much chance at fidelity as anyone.
Question is will either be happy in a contrived arrangement?
2007-06-22 15:28:03 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off, how selfish of you, I would love to win the lottery and live on a Yacht surrounded by servants but I am not going to pretend to be someone I am not because of the "American Dream" Good grief snap out of it!! The year is 2008. You can marry a man now and either adopt or surrogate a child and you can also buy a home with a white picket fence for you and your husband. Now you do this and raise your child in a "truly healthy and all around loving" environment. Not one that is a sham!
2016-03-14 05:17:40 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
REAL STORY This wonderful man I know was brought up an Italian strict Catholic. The thought of him being gay would have his family on their knees praying. So he did what he thought was the right thing & got married & had kids. His youngest child was born with fetal alcohol syndrome so obviously his wife was not happy either. But they pretended for years until his wife decided to leave him for a man their sons age. Well he moved on but never came out & is still living in misery because his family is still the damn Italian Catholics who would be convinced he'd burn. He's ruined his chance of ever being happy. He's always been gay but he's kept himself in a prison of acting straight
2007-06-21 22:41:14 · answer #8 · answered by For Da Be Dan- Liza p 3 · 5⤊ 0⤋
It's not a preference, it's an orientation, and most attempts by people to fight this after they have already expressed their sexual orientation end in disaster.
It's not a matter of being faithful but of trying to be something you're not.
2007-06-21 23:29:35 · answer #9 · answered by gone fishing 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I don't know about changing to be straight, but i know of a few guys who married a woman despite knowing they were gay. Half of them are now divorced, and the other half is cheating with gay guys.
2007-06-21 22:14:31 · answer #10 · answered by Sam 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋