I saw this question on yahoo and thought it was a very interesting one. I also found it interesting how most of the women were perfectly fine with having men pay for them while most men were not very happy. In my opinion having the man pay most of the time or all of the time is really unfair. That is an outdated and antiquated custom that worked well when women didn't have money or jobs to pay for their own food. However, in today's society, women also work and some make more money than men. I think if women demand equal rights they should demand it in every aspect of life not just the areas that suit them and keep quiet when it is to their benefit to not speak up. I don't think paying for someone else's food has any connection to pride and men have been brainwashed into thinking that. I also don't think it is cheap if a man refuses to pay. I think it is just fair for women to offer to pay and pay some of the times when dining out. What do you guys think?
2007-06-21 20:13:15 · 23 answers · asked by jorarmando 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
If a man does not pay for my dinner, I immediately label him a cheapskate, and I will not date him again. Simple.
You want equal rights? I'll pay for dinner, but you get to sleep with the dog. Simple.
I am not ashamed to say that I prefer old fashioned men who know how to treat a woman. They open doors, pay for dinner and helps her with her coat. I reward these men generously and without inhibition. A cheapskate gets nothing from me except the money I paid for dinner on our one and only date.
2007-06-22 14:20:34 · answer #1 · answered by Optimistic 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I guess that would all depend upon your personal level of interest in the woman. If you want to impress her, and get to know her better, and you ask her out on a date - why SHOULDN'T you pay?!? Chances are, if you hit it off, she will reciprocate in some way, on her own. I know if I went out to eat with a man I really liked, and wanted to see more of, I'd be inviting him to my place for a good, home-cooked meal!
Believe it or not, a lot of women still DON'T make the kind of money men do. And if she's available for dating, that means she may well be struggling alone to make ends meet. If a man shows signs of being stingy early on, I would take that as a "red flag" to move on! After all, he is saying, in essence, that he does not believe you are worth the added expense of another meal, or a good time out somewhere. If he's like that at the beginning of a "romance", how's he gonna act later on, when you're no longer a new "conquest" for him?!
Now if a couple has been dating for awhile, and each is aware of the others' financial limitations, I don't see why it shouldn't be a give and take relationship. But if a man truly cares for a woman, he is not going to be pinching pennies, and expecting her to match him, dollar for dollar!!!
2007-06-22 03:41:05 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
men should pay but not just so women can ride the gravy train. if the relationship is just friends, then going dutch or paying sometimes is just fine. most women are down for that. but if the woman is being courted, the man should pay. after you get married, then it's a moot point isn't it? all money is community property and you both pay...
don't give up being a man so easily...it has nothing to do with equal rights which is about equal money for equal work.
if you can't afford to pay, then have dates that are free or low cost. love does not carry a price tag unless you place one on it...
2007-06-22 03:21:47 · answer #3 · answered by chieko 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, even though I don't date women, my thoughts are that, to be a gentleman, a man should pick up the tab for a first date provided that it won't break the bank. Any subsequent dates, the woman should treat or, at the very least, offer to split the check with the guy. I agree, it is only right.
2007-06-22 11:16:42 · answer #4 · answered by jasgallo 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi,
I agree with you. I think it's outdated and completely against all the things that our mothers fought for in the 1960's. All these women now keep shouting "Girl power", but having the guy pay completeletely goes against that. I believe that he pays once and then you pay the next time, and so on. That's how I do it
2007-06-22 03:18:47 · answer #5 · answered by Chava 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If you ask her out, you pay. As simple as that. However, if you're in a longer relationship, I think it's only fair and civilized that she pays from time to time, and she should think herself of offering to pay every now and then.
Just do not share the cost (go Dutch). That's wrong on so many levels :)
2007-06-22 04:03:13 · answer #6 · answered by Alexander T 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In todays society when women demand equal rights-they should be given them. Such as in paying for an evening out with a man.
2007-06-22 03:30:09 · answer #7 · answered by richard c 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
In part I do agree with you. Today's is world is different, and so are the rules for paying on a date. I do believe whoever initiated the date should have to pay.
2007-06-22 11:32:42 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well it just depends on the two people in the relationship..my personal opinion is that the man should pay...he is like a male figure which should take care of the woman.. but it just depends on what the two people in the relationship decide on.
2007-06-22 03:17:23 · answer #9 · answered by aerolover9339 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Morally, the guy shouldn't have to pay more than his half.
Realistically, if you want a chance at the pants, you'd better plan on picking up the tab. (Don't you just love a double standard?)
;-p
2007-06-22 03:24:02 · answer #10 · answered by energeticthinker 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋