what do you do when you are consumed with jealousy? And feel like you have been wronged by someone?

Answer 1

I obsess about it for awhile, and play in my mind all these conversations where I wittily and cleverly put down the person who has hurt me. I also turn it over in my mind why the person did that -- what possible motivation lurked in his or her heart? Sometimes I find an answer that lets me forgive and forget.

But over the years, I've learned it's best just to cut those people who cause me pain out of my life. Life is too short. And revenge often backfires. So I obsess, and then let the anger die down. If possible, I try to make amends, or forgive the person. If they meet me half way, usually it ends up OK. If not, I just cut the ties, and try not to think about it anymore.

Answer 2

Jealousy is a hard thing to deal with. Usually, I try to kill them with kindness, because then no has anything bad to say about me and that I handled it like an adult. Later on, when the jealousy goes away you know that you handle it the right way. I know that is hard to do, but it has always worked 4 me. In the end the one that wronged me will get it in the full circle. What goes around comes around.

Answer 3

My "shoulds" in life are always the things that give me the most pain. I have got loads of them and thats a problem. This "should" be that way or that "should" not be the case. I "should" have something because i did this. That person "should" not have done this to me.

Just writing the above things is making me heat up and get angry. Try to take the "should" out of the situation. I know this is not easy and i often do not suceed in this myself. If you can remove that "should", you might feel a bit better. Example could be, saying this to yourself,


"I know whats happened to me is wrong, but i am going to let go of that should because it is hurting me"

say this over and over again out loud while looking in a mirror for five minutes. Set a timer, you will be amazed how effective it can be

Answer 4

I eventually get over the jealousy thing, though it takes a long time. And I don't fully understand what you mean by "being wronged by someone." Sorry.

Answer 5

I got this info on the net - i hope it will help you - remember to pray about this situasion -God will show you how to handle it

:)


When you are feeling jealous, you are undergoing an emotional combination of anger, dependency, hurt, and self doubt. When you spend time focusing on what you are not, this is a result of insecurity.

Sometimes when we are afraid of losing something, we actually cause it to happen because of our actions and behaviors. All our thoughts and actions are centered around our fears and insecurities. This causes more fear and insecurity. These feelings cause other harmful feelings and may result in us indulging in self pity.

What are some ways of dealing with jealousy?

Develop independence.
We need to be sure we are not overly dependant on any one person. We need to focus on the good things we have and not on what we don't have.


Focus on developing more confidence and attractiveness.
Sometimes something simple like getting our hair done or changing our style of clothing can help. Taking a course on self esteem or assertiveness is also beneficial.


Be honest with yourself.
Sit down with paper and list things that are making you jealous. Look at it objectively. Are these things silly or trivial or are they really important?


Communicate with the person who is the object of your jealousy.
Tell them your feelings. Is that person doing something that is causing you to be jealous? Letting them know can often help the problem. If this other person cares for you, they will work on changing the behavior that is adding to your jealousy. Being aware of your feelings can also help you cope better.

Realize that jealousy shows your lack of self esteem and uncertainty of your own worth.
Work on taking a really good self evaluation. This experience can be a wonderful learning opportunity for you. Work on communication with other people. Work on developing confidence.


Study your rival.
Look closely at the person you are jealous about. What do you like and dislike about the person? Are his or her qualities beyond your abilities? Be sure you are not being unrealistic about that person. Are you seeing things as they really are? Take control of your feelings. Terminate the relationship if nothing else seems to work. Take the time to concentrate on your own growth. Work at trying to understand and improve your relationship.


Do not overreact.
Remember, most incidents are temporary so don't magnify what happened. Serious jealousy stems from a fear of loss, reputation, control of ourselves, our spouses, or relationships. Losing control of our emotions and feelings will only make things worse.

Answer 6

I become blinded by my jealousy & deprive myself of a good time & good friends.
When I am wronged by someone I put my trust in God & allow Hm to work His revenge.