Everyone thinks we should have our little boy babysat and go out to dinner, just my Husband and I. We have discussed and it and we dont really want to, our little man is only 3.5 months and we love takinghim out with us. We were very ready for a family and we now do everything as a family, is this so wrong???
2007-06-21 17:46:29 · 33 answers · asked by Lucky Mummy to 2!!! 5 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Newborn & Baby
3.5 months is the meat loaf age ... you put him down wrapped in a blanket and he's still where you left him. Easy to take care of.
Soon, wriggling and crawling will change that. Blink for too long and he's climbing the curtains or getting a mouthful of your puppy's tail.
The suggestion may be to help you and your husband to keep the romance in your marriage. This is one of the easiset ages to test drive a relative or friend who would sit for you.
Talk to your husband and an answer of "Whatever" may mean he wants some quality time with you. The best environment for Jr is a home where there is love, so date you husband when you get the chance.
PS: Congrates on Jr.
2007-06-21 18:02:45 · answer #1 · answered by wizebloke 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
When you feel ready to go out, your baby will also be ready to leave you for a little while. For now just enjoy him as he is. I generally have not left my children until they were about 2 and then they would stay at Grandma's house, for only a couple of hours so I could eat with 2 hands. I was nursing and I considered my child and I a team. When dinner out became difficult because my kid realized he could stand in the high chair or other problems (not discipline problems just general baby lost attention problems), my husband would bring a meal home, it would take the pressure off of cooking for the night.
Friends and family are well meaning by saying that you need a night out, but if your Husband and you have decided that your child should be with you than that's where he belongs. Being a family means being together, there will be enough time later in his life and yours where he will want to be apart from you to visit friends etc. but for now hold your boy and cuddle him he'll only be this small once, and time goes so fast.
Congratulations.
2007-06-21 18:15:10 · answer #2 · answered by kd5bel 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
A couple of hours is a good thing. You really need to remember that you are married and he needs your love and attention too. 3 and a half months is old enough to leave for a couple of hours while you and your husband go out for a date. Leave him with someone you trust. Pump some breastmilk and have a bottle ready for him.
Having said that, I know that my husband really appreciates the time we spend alone. I love my kids more than I love my own life...but I also need to remember to nurture my marriage and spend special time with him.
Take your cell phone and call home a million times. Next time you go out, you'll only call home 9000 times...and then you'll learn to relax a little. There is nothing at all wrong with getting a sitter for a couple of hours. If you are doing it every night and all night long, well, that's a completely different story! But it sounds like you've earned a little diversion and you really need to take some time to recharge your relationship. Date nights are such a great thing.
2007-06-21 17:53:09 · answer #3 · answered by Fotomama 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Its not wrong but you do need to make time for each other. A dinner may be a stretch though, if you are upset you won't eat. Don't waste money. Start slow--take a nice walk together just the two of you. Hold hands and don't talk about the baby. There must be something else the two of you have in common to chat about (besides how much you did not want to leave the baby). It won't be easy but don't lose touch with each other.
2007-06-21 17:53:04 · answer #4 · answered by M. Nurse 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My husband and I are having the same problem. Our anniversary is on Monday and we are planning a weekend away from our little man who is only 2 1/2 months old. Our family told us to go BC if we don't we would regret not doing something special for our 1st anniversary but we are having a hard time getting used to the idea of leaving him. We are still on the fence about leaving him.I guess we are in the same boat!
2007-06-21 18:24:40 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I do not think it right for you to leave the baby home in care of some outsider and you both going out for dinner or a movie. Ofcourse, if a family member is taking care of, is a different story altogether. Anyway, as you say, the baby is GORGEOUS (and only 3.5 months old) atleast I would prefer to take such a baby out with me - whether be to a party or for dinner or a movie. For the child, one has to sacrifice. You should do what your conscience say and not what 'everyone think'.
2007-06-21 17:58:44 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
We had the same problem and solved it by not listening to anyone but ourselves. We have left our child 3-4 times in 4 years. We love to do everything as a family, but somehow our relationship has only gotten stronger over the years. The most important thing is to be on the same page as your husband. This holds true for most parenting questions. Sorry, we are in the minority but not crazy. I often think of what the Sears' (Dr. Sears, his wife and sons) say, something like: When your child is grown, would you ever say you spent too much time with them?
2007-06-21 18:41:56 · answer #7 · answered by obviously clueless 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like everyone loves your little guy and they are probably hinting that they would love to babysit him. my husband and I only go out a few times a month and our baby is 5 months old. He is very good and easy to take along but it's amazing how relaxing it is to go to dinner without a baby. Just driving to and from is so different. I would suggest that you try it when you feel that it is time. You would be suprised how much you really could use a break.
2007-06-21 17:59:44 · answer #8 · answered by shantelbbag 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No its not wrong= if you are both happier with the baby with you - by all means keep him with you- we had our first in her first resturant appearence at 2 months (the waitresses loved her! LOL! & we got great service LOL!!)
on the other hand- the two of you DO need time for just the two of you - when you have someone you are completely comfortable with - go for a short time 1-2hrs and see how everyone does. then as you build confidence make a practice of "couple" time at least once a week. it doesnt have to be a BIG DEAL but just together time. it will keep both of you fresher and happier which makes baby happier too. :o)
enjoy your little man and congratulations
rj
2007-06-21 17:56:22 · answer #9 · answered by cometkatt 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Of course it's not wrong. If you're are that happy having him with you than by all means take him with you. Tell those people who tell you you should hire a sitter that you are perfectly happy taking him with you and dont' want to. I have two young boys and absolutely love having a night on the town with just my husband, but we also enjoy going out with just the four of us as well, so tell them to mind their own business and do things whichever way makes you happy! He's your son and you're proud of him, why not show others how happy you all are together?
2007-06-21 17:52:19 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋