I 'm stuck up..so how do I change ot?

Question

I wanna be myself.How do I just be me..without caring what people think.I've been to a therapist, have tons of advice books..yet...alot people think I'm stuck up..especially women...I feel like I have to kiss people butt in order for people to like me..old friends, and people I used to hang with in high school and their friends be acting funny style...It seem that (not to be funny or anything) that we just don't have alot to talk about., they always seem to resort back to me having a master degree, I really don;'t see it as a big deal, but other people so How do I lossen up so people can like me...or think that I 'm not stuck up...PS. I'm really just shy..

Answer 1

ah, same with me.

but well, I actually found my answer in God because I'd been really struggling with my identity before and then I looked here and there and then officially saw myself as a Christian, but my answer isn't biased because of that.

You really just need to be more expressive about how you're feeling but considerate at the same time. I used to feel that way about having to kiss someone's butt to get them to like me, but I realized how lame that is.

Relationships that are fake might as well not exist. I'm really sensitive too, haha, but there are times to be just either really confrontational to those who are abusing you and..

well sorry but since I don't know you, but if you really are STUCK UP and condescending to others and YOU want to change, then you really just need to take a step back and look at your life. See what you might have missing or other parts of your life that may be affecting your attitude towards others.

I found also that a lack of love and acknowledgment from friends and family in the past also made me feel resentful and those feelings came out into a condescending attitude.

I'm very shy too in person, or at least I was. Now I'm getting to know myself more and accepting who I am.

One note is: don't wait for others to approach you. go to them.

hope this helps!

Answer 2

You haven't figured this out yet?
A lot of people think that somebody is stuck up when they are just shy. So you might try explaining this if it comes up.
You sound really sensitive about what people think of you. Not everybody is going to judge you correctly. Sometimes you can still get along with them and have a good time. Other times you just have to tolerate them.
One way to get people to like you is to be interested in them and their activities. Just because you're shy doesn't mean you have no curiosity about other people. Encourage them to talk about what interests them, and they will think you are a great conversationalist.
Of course you will probably also want some acquaintances that are interested in what you are interested in. Go ahead and find some. But you can't expect everybody to.