on his days off. and constantly tells me he's just waiting for me to invite him 'back home'. i have been open about the fact that i like being by myself. though the seperation is only 2 weeks along, i know him coming back is not what i want. at this point, i am wanting to file simply because i feel such a weight off of my shoulders (we fought a LOT and bad...and it has definitely mellowed out since seperating.) is it too soon to know? and how do i break the final news to him, with him wanting so much more than me?
2007-06-21 15:23:51 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
i meant, is it too soon to know my true feelings and not just have a 'knee-jerk' reaction to being without him after 9 years?
2007-06-21 15:25:02 · update #1
have been thru counseling. nothing much came of it.
2007-06-21 15:29:06 · update #2
Tell him you need more time to fully assess the situation. A separation of two weeks is not long enough for that. Tell him honestly how you feel. This feeling may or may not change over time. If it doesn't feel right then don't rush back just because he wants it. You just need to be honest with him and communicate that.
2007-06-21 15:35:50 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
He's probably over everyday because he knows it's over.
Today, women go through husbands much like, how they repaint the walls, change the curtains, get different shoes, rearrange the furniture every month. Always needing change.
The old saying "It's a woman's perogative to change her mind".
Don't worry or stress yourself out... just tell him. The divorce rates are approaching 100% anyways.
If abuse or infidelity are not involved, you're basically a quiter, and men will not take you serious in the future, unless he's the same.
2007-06-21 22:31:39 · answer #2 · answered by Nep 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋
How about professional couples counseling before filing. If that isn't what you want. You better have someone with you who can call 911 if things go bad and he has a bad temper.
2007-06-21 22:27:23 · answer #3 · answered by Mr. Ed 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am not surprised that counseling didn't work (what a bunch of quacks) Set some rules about the separation. Explain to him you need time to get your head on straight. Eventually he will find another honey to sleep in his bed. (Hopefully you are NOT doing that now)
2007-06-21 22:34:29 · answer #4 · answered by lily 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is too soon to know. Can't you consider working things out?
2007-06-21 22:29:22 · answer #5 · answered by Summer B 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unless he has committed adultery, you don't have the reason for divorce. Remember your wedding vows? You need God in your life.
2007-06-21 22:31:43 · answer #6 · answered by Sweet Suzy 777! 7 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Take it one day at a time.....
if you are happier being alone right now.....continue to be alone.
2007-06-21 22:28:26 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
tell him you need more time to decide what u want. ( forgive me for saying, but duh)
2007-06-21 23:30:18 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋