2007-06-21 14:43:55 · 14 answers · asked by amber h 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
my parents had a divorce and it is hard to choose btwen them
2007-06-21 14:45:36 · update #1
Dealing with divorce as a child is usually tough. I don't know how old you are, but you should know that lots & lots of adults get divorced. About 50% of all couples who marry get divorced, so it's pretty common. You are not alone.
Moms and dads know each other differently then you know them. They love each other differently than they love you. But sometimes moms and dads have issues or problems with each other that can't be fixed. And they decide to separate.
Just try to enjoy each parent, if you have a brother or sister understand it's ok for them to feel different than you. It will get easier as you get older. If you are having a very hard time with the divorce, that's ok. Let both of them know and ask them if you can speak to a family counselor about how you feel.
Remember, you're feelings are normal. Hope this information helps.
2007-06-26 03:55:15 · answer #1 · answered by Shy Guy 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Do you really have to choose between them? They will always be in your life - it's not like you are going to discard one. If it's a decision about whom to live with, that's something to think about and only you know the right answer. If it's a decision about whose side to take - don't make any decision. There is no side to take. Just say you will always be on both their sides and you hope they will be the same for you.
It's difficult but the more time you spend with each parent, the more relaxed you can feel that you are still a family. So always insist that you want to spend time with both, no matter where you are.
Good luck!
2007-06-28 02:43:12 · answer #2 · answered by kathyw 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why do you have to chose? Your love should be the same and you should still respect them both. A divorce is hard for a child - even though it's more common now - but it's hard on the parents too.
The only choice should be love and respect them both - talk to them or a close family member if you are have issues about it - but don't chose who is right or wrong. They both love you.
2007-06-29 04:00:13 · answer #3 · answered by baseball mom 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My parents are divorced as well and I don't choose between them. I always invite both of them for holidays and family events and they don't have a problem being there together because it's not about them. It's for the family. I spend time with both of them. However, if they can't act like grownups then don't fool with either one of them. I've done that too.
2007-06-29 06:17:18 · answer #4 · answered by Jenni 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should not have to choose .if you love both of your parents equally ,you can treat them both the same .if you still live with one go stay a week at there other every other week .I'm sure that your parents didn't get divorced because of you so don't make it your problem some people are better when they are apart and they can be better parents to you
2007-06-27 15:26:54 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You shouldn't be made to choose between parents. Are they trying to make things as best they can for you, if so they probably don't want you to feel pressured either. Think about what is the best solution for you. Is one of the parents staying in the house, is one moving closer to school. Then give them your decision and why you decide this.
2007-06-27 07:50:14 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should choose the one who lives in a better school district based on your spelling.
No seriously, you can't choose between them. You have to make compromises so that you can be a part of both of their lives.
They should never make you choose either. That is awful if they do.
2007-06-29 01:33:23 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't have to choose between them they both love you! They can just be better parents apart. The worst part is when Dad talks bad about mom, or vice versa. I finally told my Dad and Mom to stop.
2007-06-28 09:15:30 · answer #8 · answered by spawanee 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should never have to choose between your parents. you should be able to spend time with both of them, and have a good relationship with them.
remember, they divorced each other, they didn't divorce you. and you never take sides with one parent over the other.
just respectfully tell your parents that you will not be allow them to put you in the middle of their mess. and leave it at that.
I wish you the best.
2007-06-21 16:40:18 · answer #9 · answered by atiana 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You don't choose. They are your parents -- love them both and try to be supportive without getting into their problems and taking sides.
2007-06-27 20:51:55 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋