I have been married 4 yrs and seperated for 2 of those 4 yrs.I married my college sweet heart unaware her had problems with porn.It caused issues in our sex life because he was watching everyday , he was having trouble lasting more than 5- 10 min's while in bed with me and this was very unpleasurable for me.Also this was very different from the sex life we enjoyed prior to marriage.I asked him to tone it down a bit that made things worse causing fights.I got pregnant and while checking up on my parents house experienced pain tried calling home 7 times no answer had to call 911.I lost the baby and it took hospital an hour to get him on phone.He lied said he was sleeping but was in fact watching porn as i found out when i checked commputer history.Hubby wants to try again after 2 yrs but i think i want a divorce.I was fine these last 2 yrs till he called to say he wanted to try again.Now i wonder what i did wrong?I was always open to him sexually and trying new things.So why?
2007-06-21 14:42:24 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
He will fall back into the same behavior as before.He is addicted to porn and it has nothing to do with you or how much or what the two of you do in bed. He is living in a sexual fantasy world where he sees women as objects to play with.If you can get around that then go for it but if i were you i would forget him because he won't change for you,he will promise you the world but sneak in his porn when your not looking.
2007-06-21 15:05:04 · answer #1 · answered by Teenie 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well it seems like maybe it was a problem that was fixable. If that makes sense. Porn ......i dont understand why u felt threatened...i mean regardless of how often he looked at it ...i dont see the threat ..unless he was looking at it instead of pleasing u...then i see what ur saying. Did u ever watch it with him....did u guys communicate on ur own sex life. Meaning was it boring...I know u said that u were open to stuff so what was the problem with the porn. Now the line should not have been occupied ...im sorry for ur loss..i know how u feel.....u made vowels ...that is something that could have been worked out at least i think.....One thing to remeber is that he's human....and becuz u made such serious vowels then he deserves a second chance. But slowly...i mean feel him out go out on a date ...start over in a way... good luck
2007-06-21 22:30:03 · answer #2 · answered by panther 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Youve gone the second mile for him, time to look out for your well being and take charge of your life. Disconnect from the loser and salvage and rebuild your life for the happiness you deserve. These kind are always going to reform, going to change. Give someone else his problems. Only one life it will soon be passed, only whats done for you will last.
The best predictor of future behavior is past behavior. nuf said
2007-06-21 21:47:28 · answer #3 · answered by glenn t 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
His porn addiction had nothing to do with you or your ability to pleasure a man. He has issues, they are HIS issues, not yours. Move on and be happy. Let go of the past and look forward to your future.
2007-06-21 22:23:38 · answer #4 · answered by Lorelei 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you have already moved on (to an extent) but he has caused old feelings to come back. If you've been ok without him for two years - you'll be ok without him longer.
2007-06-21 21:49:57 · answer #5 · answered by jst_lv_me_alone 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is just a loser. Forget him. I know you deserve better!
2007-06-21 21:45:57 · answer #6 · answered by SG GAL 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋