my parents ALWAYS yell, find things wrong with me and DESTROY my confidence and ANYTIME i try to have a nice reasonable talk they say quit overreacting or should we put you in counseling? and i literally HAVE to be perfect...anytime i get something for about 4 months they'll say didn't i JUST get you that how could you even ask for something else...my younger sister is treated like an angel...it makes me cry and feel bad i'm only going to be a sophmore..WHAT DO I DO??? PLEASE HELP!!
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2007-06-21 14:34:57 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Beauty & Style ➔ Other - Beauty & Style
Don't let it mess u up. I know how u feel. When i was small my parents would act the same way while my younger brother got away with murder. I'm sure ur parents don't mean by it but they unintentionally are hurting u b/c of how they treat u while they treat ur baby sister as if shes perfect. try & have a talk with them & let them know how u feem without fighting with them. Don't let it destroy ur confidence. If u ever need someone to tak to u can email me ok? Take care & i hope u feel beter.
2007-06-21 16:55:55 · answer #1 · answered by Scooter_loves_his_dad 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh dear, that sounds so horrible. I am so sorry for you, and first just wanted to say that you must be a strong strong young woman. I can only think to say to develop a support system out of the home and plan towards college if you can when you graduate! It sounds as if your parents do not realize what they are doing, and how it affects you. You should know that you are not wrong for reacting this way and thinking these things... Perhaps if they continue to suggest counseling you should take them up on it - but have them go with you, so that you can have an impartial third person witness this and perhaps help them realize what they are doing!
2007-06-21 21:43:53 · answer #2 · answered by juno mama 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
yeah **** what Bruce had to say, it sounds like ur parents are being completely weird and it doesn't sound like u are doing anything wrong. The only advice I can give you is to not lose confidence with yourself when you know they are the one's at fault.
One of my friends is/was in a similiar situation; his parents, mainly his dad, are the most irrational ppl you will ever meet. They will get pissed at him when he does nothing wrong. So one day he decides to semi-run away, and after 2 days his parents are really worried about him and are begging him to come back. And when he finally does come back, his parents started treating him normally. This may or may not work for you, your parents just may try to tell you that u need counseling if u do it.
Another thing you could do is try to ask them why they treat you badly, and if they dislike you for doing something wrong in the past or w/e.
Sounds like your parents are weird tho, good luck with the situation.
2007-06-21 21:42:25 · answer #3 · answered by SpacemanSpliff 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
omg... i can completely feel your pain there... my parents are divorced and have other kids with other people... out of all of my brothers && sister's i am the least favorite.. my mom says that since she goes out of her way to get me food i should be grateful for everything else... my confidence is destroyed also and there are constantly things wrong with me. I mention that i am not treated as fairly as my other siblings and my parents deny it compeltely. However,,, i don't really have much advice other than to just know that yes u do have your flaws but you are also amazing
2007-06-21 21:42:16 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am sorry to hear of these difficulties, and I know that they are real to you, even if they are not real to others who answer here. So, my suggestion is that you go to school and talk to your school councilor. They are trained to deal with things exactly like this. They may give you ways to deal with it, or they may tell you ways to get it corrected. Either way, it will be much better for you in the future.
2007-06-21 21:45:49 · answer #5 · answered by MasterMmmm 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i can totally relate to you!!! my little brother is totally the favorite!!! its sooooooo frustrating!!!! i would just make as many plans as possible!!! get out of the house!!! in your situation, getting a job may be a great option!!!! then, you don't have to ask your parents for money or new stuff, and it will get you out of the house!!! you could also talk to your school counselor!!! my last piece of advice is to write them a LONG, deep note expressing your feeling!!! tell them everything that you are feeling...it will show that you trust them!
2007-06-21 21:41:12 · answer #6 · answered by 3oh!3 fan! 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Me too my lil sis get treated like an angel.Talk to an adult you trust for support. Try to talk to your parents about it. Don't worry you'll get through it! Just be confident in yourself.
2007-06-21 21:40:30 · answer #7 · answered by Me 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
yea...they do that with my sister she always gets all the attention because they think im smart enough to survive on my own (and i mean i am smart) but i need them sometimes, just calm down, talk to friends who you know will listen and not make you feel worse, if u need a good listener im always here, my e-mail is bluejulia93@aol.com
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2007-06-21 21:43:48 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Chill and deal with what they have to say. Sometimes we only think of oursleves with wants and needs and trying to keep up with other kids that are spoiled. They are teaching you good values..learn patience and perhaps ask your parents how you can earn the things you want. help them to help you.
2007-06-21 21:39:48 · answer #9 · answered by Bruce N 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
forget about them, don't tell them any thing, or as them for anything, that's why you have friends, and a job.
2007-06-21 21:50:45 · answer #10 · answered by tickle-me-pink 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋