Does a loving parent punish and then forgive? Forgive and then punish? What about our Creator?
2007-06-21 14:28:33 · 6 answers · asked by Valerie C 3 in Arts & Humanities ➔ Philosophy
In my opinion, parents should not punish... they discipline. Punishment extracts revenge, discipline teaches the right behavior.
Discipline is most effective when it is a natural consequence to the behavior. For example, your child forgets their homework - don't run the homework to school for them and give them a timeout when they come home. Instead, let them suffer the consequences of forgetting their homework. The goal of discipline is to teach children responsibility.
There is lot of parenting books and websites that talk about the differences. Many suggest that discipline doesn't include spanking - I don't hold to that (spare the rod, spoil the child). I'm sure a search of discipline versus punishment will yield lots of information.
Regards,
CalvinZ
2007-06-21 14:54:40 · answer #1 · answered by Calvin Z 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Its all part of a behavior consequence chain. A behavior or group of behaviors require a specific punishment. Forgiveness is not in question when punishment is done out of love for a child or other individual. The forgiveness is given unconditionally and constantly. I can't speak for our creator, but I feel its the same way unless we are the creations of a giant explosion that doesn't care one way or the other. I've never seen the creator nor have I been punished by a creator. All my knowledge comes from the punishments from a caring family and community, and the punishments I've had to deal to my loved ones. Nature in itself punishes those who live on earth. "Play with fire youre going to get burnt" Forgiveness isn't an issue. Going on a long hike without a raincoat can be punishing if it rains. Any time or an undesirable event is added to a behavior a punishment occurs. Punishment with children and with other loved ones should be as natural, because punishment is natural. Love your children and punish them as nature would. Forgivness is not an issue and is constant. Love should always be shown even when punishing. Sorry for the punctuation.
2007-06-21 14:52:57 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Punishment and forgiveness refer to two totally seperate concepts. Forgiveness is something you give to someone who has offended you to show that there are no hard feelings. Punishment is meant to teach a lesson, or to instruct someone in the right path, or to discourage further wrong behavior. I see no reason first of all why both have to be present at the same time in any given circumstance or why they would be mutually exclusive.
2007-06-21 14:57:49 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i dont think they work at the same time, the most loving way would be, i think, is forgiveness and then punishment. if in that order, the punishment will be dealt out in love and wisdom. and i do think , that maybe, our creator does the same, except he forgives, before we even do, and then punishment is the result of the deed? when u do something bad, usually something bad happens to u. its not something that he gives out, its just they way life is, carma?
2007-06-21 14:39:14 · answer #4 · answered by hippie chick 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes! Parents punish you, some parents make you pay, "if" I was born a girl, why am I being punished? why they made me pay? was that my fault?
Did I forgive them? "YES" I did. Did they acknowledge what they did to me was wrong? any regrets? "NO" nothing whatsoever.
Creator? He is great, in spite off all our faults and wrong doings, HE is by our side and forgives us, gives us another chance to correct it, fix it and learn from it.
Its what you make out of your life.
2007-06-21 14:42:12 · answer #5 · answered by Naaz 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your parents are your creators. Or the doctor was if you were born in the test tube era.
2007-06-21 16:36:24 · answer #6 · answered by guru 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋