2007-06-21 14:28:08 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Psychology
Child surpasses parent and becomes rival.
Parent probably thought the child would be grateful & loving for the effort put in raising the child but only found resentment and contempt.
2007-06-21 14:44:29 · answer #1 · answered by flip 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Usually when a parent is jealous of an adult child is because they feel they never fulfilled their dreams and aspirations and view the child as the reason they put their life on hold to raise their children . Instead of being proud of their children and saying hey it was well worth the sacrifice , they are filled with jealousy and resentment instead . And in some cases parent's are jealous because their children have the youth that they once had but now is lost . And that is why you see so many parent's compete with their children .
2007-06-21 14:40:02 · answer #2 · answered by godsbird2006 4 · 3⤊ 1⤋
Wow. That's not an easy one to answer. If it's your mother, there could be alot of issues with self esteem and identity that have gotten tied up in your relationship.
Was your mom resentful about things she had to give up to provide for you (things like money and especially time)? Did she expect a certain response from you on some occasions that she didn't get? Does she have a hard time communicating her feelings to you? Does she feel like she's competing with you for someone's attention? Does she have the perception that she is not as accomplished, successful or beautiful as you are? All of those things could make her jealous and angry.
It is so hard to genuinely communicate with someone who can't open up about their feelings, especially if they are the kind of person who carries a grudge.
As I said before, you cannot rationalize with an irrational person, and you might not get to the place where she will change her behavior. That can be so hurtful. There may be something that you could do for yourself and for her that might make you feel better, though. First of all, be very non-argumentative for a while. Then, write her a thank you letter that talks about the positive experiences you have had with her growing up and mention the nice things she did for you over the years. In doing so, this can make you feel peaceful instead of angry and frustrated. Then write yourself a letter about what a great adult you turned out to be. You never need her permission to feel good about yourself. The only permission you need is your own! Good luck and God bless.
2007-06-22 14:13:59 · answer #3 · answered by Rikki 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The parent didn't experience the things her adult child is having.
2007-06-21 14:39:15 · answer #4 · answered by Tuesday 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The only thing I am jealous of my adult children for is the fact that they have a mom like me who still hangs out and is their best friend and likes the same things they do. My children were born when I was 19 and 21, so I was a young mom, and still am. They are so lucky. I loved my Mom and she was a great mom, and my best friend, but she didn't like the same things that I did, or like my friends like I do with my sons, or hang out with us just because.
2007-06-21 15:08:09 · answer #5 · answered by penelopejanepitstop 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If their adult child is more successful than they ever were/are
2007-06-21 14:35:09 · answer #6 · answered by Allie C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey there Delilah whats it like in NY city im a thousand miles away but girl tonight you look so pretty yes you do times square cant shine as bright as you oh yes its true...ohhhh its whatchu do to meeee ohhhh its whatchu do to meeee whatchu do to meeeee
sorrry i had to
2007-06-21 14:39:05 · answer #7 · answered by bri89 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
their child is doing what they wanted to do at that age.
2007-06-21 14:32:50 · answer #8 · answered by Pandora 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Youth envy.
2007-06-21 16:47:15 · answer #9 · answered by Warren D 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The kid is doing what he/she couldn't do before ,or the other parent is paying more attention to the kid than to him/her.
2007-06-21 14:53:51 · answer #10 · answered by LiangMoi 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋