How do you get your wife in the mood?

Question

After a long day of work and her having a long day of taking care of the kids. She is not in the mood to often. Saying she is tired, wants to sleep etc...Can anyone give me some pointers here?

She does not like sex in the morning, or in the middle of the night either. I have been taking care of myslef so to speak, but that is not sexual cotnact with a person, although self love can be very good...

HELP!
I am starving for sex !

Answer 1

spend alot of money on her. works every time

Answer 2

Nothing helps a full time homemaker than to see her husband helps her with the kids while she relax, you might be tired after coming from work but it's worth the effort.
Before you leave to work in the morning tell her not to make any dinner, that you'll bring something. Then while the kids are done with their dinner, go to your room, have some whine or champagne (whatever she like better, a little alcohol put anybody in the mood) put a red rose in the middle of the bed, and a few candles, tell her how much you love her, and take it from there.
Women like little details when they feel their life is monotonous, you don't need to go over board, sometimes a simple note in the bathroom make us feel romantic. Sometimes she might be so tired that a nice massage will make wonders... Good luck.

Answer 3

As a woman mind you, I am speaking from the heart. When u get home, or on your day off, take the kids and get them out of the house for a while so she can take a bath or a nap, but tell her housework is not allowed. Or fix dinner so she doesn't have to, or the dishes, something little that lightens her load just a bit. don't tell her u are going to, just do it. after the kids are down for the night, start with a simple neck and shoulder massage, that eases so much tension. move down to a back massage, and run your fingers up and down her spine to get the tingling started. just ease into it, without expecting too much, I'm not guaranteeing this will work, but it is a great place to start. You know your wife's turn-ons, use it. If you have to, have the grandparents or someone take the kids from early evening and overnight, so that you can go out to dinner, and just treat her like royalty. show her how much you love her and want to be with her, do the little things that u prob dont do anymore. stop on ur way home and pick up flowers "just because its thursday," or whatever day it is, come up behind her when she is cooking, or doing dishes or whatever, and kiss her on the back of her neck, just remind her that she is beautiful to u, u love her, u want her. Buying lingerie is a good sign if she likes wearing it. dont if she doesnt normally wear it though. I hope this helps, but im afraid its getting too long, email me if u have any other questions

Answer 4

Take a tip from an older woman who has been aroun the cup and found the handle. Foreplay begins before you ever hit that bed. I am sure you are tired when you come home, but take a breather, then pitch in with the chores. Set the table, make the salad, or just keep the kids happy and out of her way. When you pass by her, give a 30 second shoulder rub, without grabbing boob. Non-sexual touching establishes that you want to touch her not just when you might score. Sadly, it should not come to this, because it is not good for a marriage for either partner to hold themselves from the other. Be patient!

Answer 5

Try helping her a little...It may sound silly..and I am sure you are exhausted too...but do the dishes one night or put the rugrats to bed....

Afterwards whoo her with romance...the romance can't be over or ultimatley the sex will be too....

Try massaging her shoulders...lighting candles....drawing her a bath...something like that...tell her how much she means to you..In a sincere way...we can see through the phony stuff....

Then leave it alone and expect nothing...don't complain if you don't get sex that night....
just let it be...

keep with these small gestures... kiss her in the halls as you go about your daily routine... send her a text message telling her you love her or how beautiful she is to you...

eventually your wife will be so happy with all the love your showing her... you are bound to get all the love you invested back and then some ;)

Hope it works out :)

Answer 6

How did you get her into the mood when you were dating? Technique is everything, and showing her attention and love outside of the bedroom will help your dilemma.
Are you imposing...rushing through...getting your rocks off while ignoring her needs?
A woman who is cherished is more likely to crave you, than one who considers it a chore of simply satisfying you.
Are you sloppy or romantic?
Is sex a spontaneous thing or a command?
Is she tired of chasing kids all day? Is sex with you a risk of getting pregnant again?
Sex to a good woman, is not what it is to a man.
Chemical balance begins for both human and animal with sensitivity to each other's needs.
You 'don't get to visit, unless the door is open.' Intrusion puts on more locks.
TLC and lots of it.
Then again, if you've done all that...there is viagra for women. Menopause and hysterectomies change chemistry. Talk to your doctor.
Candle light, bubble bath, soft music, chocolates, cheese and crackers...a night out on the town...wining and dining. You know...all those things you did prior to marrying her?
When's the last time you sent her flowers "just because." Take the pressure off...and set the romance in.

Answer 7

Well if you really want to go out of your way...

Let her have some alone time when you get home. If you could spend about 1.5-2 hours with the kids so she could take a bath, a nap, or just watch her favorite movie alone.

It could really recharge her, as well as give you some quality time with the kids. Now I would not commit to every day, start with one day a week and see how it goes.

GOOD LUCK!!

And ps, nothing wrong with self-love, brother :p I always like being with a person I know will satisfy me LOL!

Answer 8

You can't just turn her on like a light switch (with guys this works). Getting her in the mood starts 12 hours prior to the "act" minimum! Plan a day you'd like to spend together and right her a note stating how you look forward to that night. In the morning walk up behind her hug her and whisper in her ear how you look forward to just simply laying next to her naked body tonight. Its the little things that get her thinking about the next time you spend together.

Answer 9

Help out with some of the chores to get to bed earlier. Suggest a crock pot meal so she will not have to cook help out with bath time and talk with her communication is the best thing to have in a relationship. It also could be her horomones I am not sure how old she is I went thru this after the birth of both my children I took Avalimil and it changed my whole world in that aspect now I do not get it enough my husband gets angry sometimes :)

Answer 10

My husband gets it every time I see him cleaning the kitchen or bathroom! That puts me in the mood more than a backrub or taking a shower together, believe it or not!!

We both work fulltime and have a 4 yr old son...and most of the time I do the cleaning around here (he takes over the yard work outside)....so once in a while, he cleans to lighten my load....and ALWAYS is rewarded!!

Get the cleaning supplies ready!!

Answer 11

Take her out and make her feel like a woman. She is a hard working mom who seems to have lost touch with being a sensual being. Set up a night just for you and her, get a babysitter, and take your lady out and remind her that she is a sexy, beautiful lady, not just a mom/housewife/councelor/janitor/cook, etc . . . Don't make sex sound like a priority, let it happen naturally. This should be done atleast once a week. Who knows she may even make the 1st move. Good luck!!