I'm a single mother of 2 who has been forced to live with my mother in law for over 5 years. My marriage of 7 years will be finalized soon. My M-i-law has decided to pay for the ex's lawyers because they dont' want me to move out of town with the kids. No custody agreement has been delt with as of yet. I have no money for lawyers, and legal aid will not help me. I fear that through her monetary influence I will lose my kids. Any advice? I know she has no claim on the kids, but the ex is her puppet and will give them up to her if he wins custody.
2007-06-21 14:14:55 · 8 answers · asked by adgmonkey 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I currently have custody of the kids, have had no back child support during seperation period. He's had the children for 1 night out of the last year. I want to move less than 3 hours away, still in state because my family is there. I also hate the city i'm in and the stress is causeing me to wrack up a lot of debt in health bills.
2007-06-21 15:00:59 · update #1
Somehow obtain you a lawyer. If she is willing to pay for his but not help you something is up. I would go somewhere else right now to live before they do take them. She has you under her thumb and can do anything she wants as long as you have no where to go or any money. Beg a lawyer to help you if anything/ Boy, I wish you luck because yes, money talks.
2007-06-21 14:21:41 · answer #1 · answered by Krinta 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Try to get as much free information and assistance that you possibly can.
Sometimes there is aid available at the court house in the form of classes that give general information on how to fill out forms, what forms you need for what process and how the process works.
Just because the ex (or ex mother in law) wants custody does not mean that he (she) will get it.
You have been the kids primary caregiver and will continue to do so.
I guess my only question at this point would be why are you planning to move out of town? Do you have family there or are you going for a job that will support you and the kids? These are all things that will come into play during the custody decision process.
If you have them with you now and are living with your mother in law (soon to me ex mother in law) how are you going to afford to move? Can you use the move away money to stay put, get your own place and fight for your kids?
2007-06-21 14:25:47 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
OK yes grandparents do have rights in most states. and the fact that you live in her home gives her more rights unless you have a rental agreenment and are paying your own way there. Try to get a lawyer that will take the case and ask the courts for him to pay any and all attorney fees. the lawyer will know how to do this. If you don't have a job get one but do not leave kids with his mom because now she becomes a care giver. go to books a million and hastings and get a book called The child custody book how to protect your kids and win your case By Judge James W. Stewert. There are other good books to help you to. try to find a lawyer that will take payments that is what we did. good luck and try to get out on your own to prove that you can care for your children.
2007-06-21 15:17:08 · answer #3 · answered by sunshine 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The only hope for you is to have a lawyer. My cousin just went through the same thing and she lost her kids. Judges don't look kindly on people who are poor. When she went into the courtroom to fight for her children the judge wouldn't even let her speak. I suggest you take it very seriously and begin going through your phonebook and begging every lawyer in it to represent you on credit or try to take out a loan. Maybe you have freinds that can help. I don't know but, your on the right track. Keep digging until you find someone who can help you. I can tell you to watch every move you make. I guarantee your being watched and anything thats dirty will be brought up in the court room. Start listing whats wrong with his parenting abilities, and think about what he might bring up on you. You definately need a lawyer.
2007-06-21 14:27:59 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
regardless of who pays for the attorney, your soon to be ex has just as much right to the children as you do...it is not fair for you to move them far away...he has every right to contest it. The children need & deserve BOTH parents...
simple solution to your problem is to not move...or just stay within the county you reside in now.
It is what is in the children's best interest that matters...and the courts feel that moveaways cause too much stress on children when they are unable to see both parents on a regular basis. So care more about your kids than your anger at your ex...and do what is right...stay close.
2007-06-21 14:26:29 · answer #5 · answered by allrightythen 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he can't give them up to her if he wins custody. you still have rights. does your soon to be ex have a job? are you still living in her house? Who are the kids living with now? If your on your own with the kids there's a good chance you'll keep them. whats best for the kids is most important. good luck
2007-06-21 14:25:38 · answer #6 · answered by doug h 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no longer relatively, it relatively is greater like this Democrat vs. Republican= significant government administration of your existence to the smallest element vs. own accountability. additionally, i be responsive to multiple Democrats who're wealthy exterior of Hollywood. What you're spouting is the left wing mantra that has been around for some years.
2016-10-02 22:16:32 · answer #7 · answered by trapani 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get a credit card it only costs about $600-$800 to get a good lawyer. If they cant prove you unfit than you will get custody.
2007-06-21 14:32:22 · answer #8 · answered by amanda b 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋