we have a 10 month old daughter and i gained about 20 lbs that i have not lost i am 160 lbs and fairly attractive still i believe. When he said he was leaving he stayed the nite and we had great sex and that was 2 weeks ago. He also said that a break is not enough and that only time will tell if we end up together I think this might have something to do with the fact that he is 22 and likes drinking and hanging out with his friends and i wantw=ed a family, i was controlling when it came to alcholical and drugs, and told him that if he was going somewhere that he could take his daughter to i would not mind if he had his space. but when he said he was going out for a couple of drinks he would not be home till 5 am. I love him so much and he is my babies daddy i want him back but i know that he has to grow up alot first what should i do?
2007-06-21 13:35:44 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Your common law 22yr old husband has a lot of
growing up to do still. You need to concentrate on
your 10month old as that is priority in your life now.
Talk to him and tell him what it is that you want him
to do to straighten out his life. If he still acts the
same then you need to seperate yourself from him
and if you love him then give him and you the
space needed to see if things will change. If he
does not then you need to prepare taking care of
your 10 month old child as that is the one who
needs the attention. Maybe when your common
law hubby sees he is alone then it might bring him
to change but if not then you need to go on with-
out him . However don't let him get away without
taking care of his share of the responsibilities of
your child, which he helped bring into this world
also. Be strong and life goes on even though you
are not with him. Good luck.
2007-06-21 15:43:59 · answer #1 · answered by RudiA 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok first off you said he is 22 years old.lets say you and him have lived together for 2 years.It sounds like I am being generous with the time here.It takes years of living like a married couple to be considered a common law marriage and only a handful of states recognize common law marriages.Your ages just dont cut it here.Grow up before you both decide to play house.Do you carry his last name? Have the two of you ever gotten engaged with the intention to actually marry or have you only talked about it in conversation? Do you live in any of the following states some of them before the year listed next to them!? Alabama
Colorado
District of Columbia
Georgia (if created before 1/1/97)
Idaho (if created before 1/1/96)
Iowa
Kansas
Montana
New Hampshire (for inheritance purposes only)
Ohio (if created before 10/10/91)
Oklahoma
Pennsylvania
Rhode Island
South Carolina
Texas
Utah
If you answered no to any of these questions and do not live in any of these states then you are not his common law wife.Just because you and him have a baby and live together,it does not constitute a legal common law marriage.
Get on with your life and make him support the kid.
2007-06-21 13:52:12 · answer #2 · answered by Dr. Bling 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i understand precisely the way you experience me and my husband have been married for an exceedingly long term and that i'm at the instant 6 months pregnant with our 5th infant and he yells at me each and every of the time jacks off in the back of my returned and the mislead me approximately it he has a extensive field of porn magazines and he refuses to get rid of any of them i attempt to do each and every thing for him so he will with a bit of luck word me basically a touch of yet that doesn't take place he basically yells and is pissy and is in a foul temper and places me down no longer something I do is nice adequate he leaves and does not even tell me the place he is going and it hurts me very badly and all i want is to be enjoyed and observed and want my husband returned and have him love on me and be excited related to the recent infant boy and that i certainly do no longer understand what to do and we to the place pill poppers yet we bypass on the methadone and he can no longer the hospital any extra yet with the help of federal regulation when you consider that i'm pregnant the regulation wont permit me detox from the methadone mutually as i'm pregnant and that they've me on split dosing a advised of a hundred and twenty its split into 2 separate morning and nighttime doses of 60 and 60 and because they kicked him off of it i'm giving him my 2nd dose and that i'm basically taking 60 mg and it extremely takes a toll on me and that i don't experience properly lots and he must be grateful yet each and every time i strengthen that I don help him he basically flips out and yells then do no longer supply me something of you methadone anymore i do no longer want it, I basically want my husband returned the best one the only that loves me i do no longer understand if my desire will ever come actual, I desire I knew a manner that may assist you all i will say is save your head up. i understand its annoying I cry my self to sleep virtually everynight I desire there develop into some magical develop into i ought to repair each and every thing for all human beings that experience this way yet i don;t understand how I certainly have tried each and every thing, i desire all of it works out for you and your husband tho i desire you the suitable. KENDRA
2016-10-18 07:33:52 · answer #3 · answered by deralin 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get over the loser!
By the time he is
mature enough to be
a real dad, he will
probably have all
kinds of std's!
Being a single mom
is not a bad thing,
be independent and
raise your child yourself!
2007-06-21 13:41:00 · answer #4 · answered by Cher 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i know it hurts but hon u got to let him go men take along time to grow up hes hurting you by goen out all the time 5 am thats a little late how would he feel it was you out all night your young and i know your inlove but think of you daughter and stick by your family and friends and gl to ya hon
2007-06-21 13:44:18 · answer #5 · answered by jewels 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Leave him now! Before anymore kids come along. Its better to be a single mom with one kid then more....You'll be alright!
2007-06-21 14:34:43 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Get a divorce and find someone who will have respect for you, and someone who wants a family. you deserve to be happy.
2007-06-21 13:42:12 · answer #7 · answered by engineer46526 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would be glad that he was honest with me that is one of my ver important principles.......If he does not love you fine get out and fine anoother man.......think nor for yourself but for your daughter
2007-06-21 13:43:25 · answer #8 · answered by Praiser in the storm 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
find somebody else
2007-06-21 13:55:52 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋