like, things that are expected to be done, or an expected reaction, i wont give either. i want to know why? thank you!
2007-06-21 13:05:18 · 8 answers · asked by girly-girl 3 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
Sounds to me like you're passive-aggressive. Someone asks you to do something and rather than say I don't want to, you agree and then simply don't do it. Apparently you don't want the confrontation that comes when you say no. If you truly want to know why you do it, look at your own thoughts, and see if it's simply a case of "I don't want to and I'm not going to" and then voice those thoughts.
2007-06-21 13:11:20 · answer #1 · answered by Jess 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Could be several reasons for it....or a combination of reasons.
Maybe you like to feel you are reserving some degree of control in your live and these 'little things' you can decide for yourself without doing any major damage to yourself or anyone else.
Maybe you are destined to be a leader rather than a follower. Many people have trouble 'taking orders' although we all have to do it to some degree or another.
Maybe you hear a 'different drummer'..... which can be troublesome at times, but we are not 'cookie cutter' kids are we?
2007-06-21 20:12:56 · answer #2 · answered by Puzzler 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Probably because someone didn't give YOU the attention you were looking for. Your mom scowls at you or your dad ran off or your grandmother thinks you are a waste. Most times, when folks say to themselves "I'm not going to do anything to make anyone happy" it's because they themselves are unhappy and feel better by dragging everyone else down. JMO
2007-06-21 20:14:19 · answer #3 · answered by WriterMom 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is a statement of one's independence. It starts off with small things. Trying to live up to other's expectations, just sux!
If you continue, you'll become REALLY independent and obstinate. Worse yet, if you try to be amicable about the little things, you'll just be miserable.
Expectations are impositions. All they have to do is ask sincerely and say please. They're prolly telling you what to do...I don't do a DAMNED thing someone tells me to do!
(I'm just a little bitter!)
2007-06-21 20:20:20 · answer #4 · answered by muppetkiller_2000 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Could be that you lack a sense of self definition or strength of character. So, you'll create rough edges and just be all around difficult to try to appear as though you have strength or 'backbone'.
This is a common reason from my experience.
2007-06-21 20:11:38 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Probably because you are trying to establish your individuality... your own personality...My motto in life has always been "the best way to get me to do something is tell me I can't" Besides "little things" often turn into "big things" I think you are showing strenghth of character, don't be a doormat ! if it's a reasonable request, maybe, or maybe not ,
Keep 'em on their toes !
2007-06-21 20:13:17 · answer #6 · answered by lala611979 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You are proving a point in your own mind "No body can push me around" Just watch I won't react
2007-06-21 20:12:09 · answer #7 · answered by aaricka 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Called being a"rebel"""and you have issues with them and what have they done to you that you feel you have to rebel?
2007-06-21 20:19:12 · answer #8 · answered by Gypsy Gal 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋