...what appears to be repeated rejection and abandonment by those who have claimed to love us? Do we develop some sort of coping mechanism that allows us to become numb, cold, detached, unemotional, - hence less human? And if so, how long before we can trust and shed this mask and be real again, and accept love from others?
2007-06-21 12:54:26 · 14 answers · asked by Enceladus 2 in Entertainment & Music ➔ Polls & Surveys
Wow, are you in my head? I understand completely. You just have to understand that those who hurt us only do it because they really know how to get under our skin. Give people a chance and someday you will be surprised... Good luck, I feel for ya.
2007-06-21 12:57:55 · answer #1 · answered by untchble 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Baby, that whole conundrum you just went through is called... BEING A MAN! We are so used to years of rejection,. And when we do finally get our just deserts we dang near rejoice. however, I know sometimes not getting yours can be frustrating but consider this. It's just sex. Sex will eventually part when you age. If the person has a good soul then get used to the idea of either getting him or her help and or start buying more batteries for your joy toy in your bedroom night stand. However, being we live in a disposable world it's too often we throw out the short comings of another for someone that will give us instant gratification now.
2007-06-21 19:59:00 · answer #2 · answered by Kill_Me_Now! 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i have lived this situation with my mother- and my coping mechanism is to shove all of the hurt feelings deep down and hide them away. Through life- i have always had a hard time with trusting others. it wasnt untill i had my kids that i learned to let go and let love in. i didnt feel i was of value untill i realized through my kids- that i am valuable- because i believe i am. hope this helps- good luck
2007-06-21 20:00:07 · answer #3 · answered by my1k1mi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes; human nature wants us to be happy, and if that means becoming numb to pain, that's what it takes.
As far as how long it takes to trust again, it depends on who you've found.
2007-06-21 19:58:00 · answer #4 · answered by Bree 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, a person can and I did during my last marriage. I simply gave up trying and turned to drugs. I was doing cocaine on a daily basis (enough to perforate my septum) and I did not want to stop. When I finally did stop, facing the marriage was unbearable so I left..the marriage and the drug use.
2007-06-21 19:58:39 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes. I've developed coping mechanisms in several areas of my life.
2007-06-21 19:56:38 · answer #6 · answered by Nico 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't think we can get use to it but I think we can defintly moved on from the crap they put us though. I'm still trying to get over my childhood, but i'm defintly a better person for what I have gone though and I know that I will never put my children though what I went thought!
2007-06-21 19:58:31 · answer #7 · answered by Christine H 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm one of those people and I don't think that I could ever find it in my heart to accept love or anybody ever again.
2007-06-21 19:58:19 · answer #8 · answered by Kraziegurl79 ist ein Rock Star 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes, sadly, some people do. i don't know how long it'll take for you to "shed the mask", it depends on how hard you're buried and how strong the other person is.
2007-06-21 19:57:29 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Im not sure about all the stuff your asking all i know is you should forgive and forget. move on with your life and frind some one new!
2007-06-21 19:57:27 · answer #10 · answered by exx ohh ily 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋