My fiancee is white, and I've never dated a black guy. Do you think it makes sense to ask him to let me get this out of the way? I should have the experience right? Does this seem like a reasonable thing to ask? Maybe a threesome with a couple guys....but then I'm completely his.....
2007-06-21 12:30:54 · 17 answers · asked by Lane 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
oops *fiance
2007-06-21 12:31:22 · update #1
Nah. I'm just kidding. I love him too frickin' much.
I just wanted to see you guys tear in to me about it. ;)
2007-06-21 12:37:11 · update #2
This can't possibly be a serious question.
2007-06-21 12:36:24 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well, this may not be the most "PC" answer but, I don't know him, but DO NOT ask him. This would mean inevitable disaster for you and your future. Somethings are just not asked. If he says no, then it will be on his mind forever (every time you see a good looking black guy) If he says yes, (he wouldn't) but, if he did, he will always wonder if that person was more successful in bed than him. I personally would get it out of you system on your own. Do not do a 3some unless you think his is down with that kind of thing. From personal experience, 3some's and long term relationships do NOT mix, someone always gets hurt in the long run. I recommend just do what you got to do and then you will be his forever! I mean, you were with other guys in the past anyway, what is one more for prosperity reasons, it's not like you are going to leave your man or fall in love. DO IT!
2007-06-21 19:46:30 · answer #2 · answered by Ant 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My question to you is, what makes you want to act out this experience now and not before this b/f or some other time in life? Is there something you are not sure of and this is making you think of things you need to fulfill first? If you know this is the man you want to be with forever then I do not think having all these other experiences will matter.
2007-06-21 19:39:55 · answer #3 · answered by mike 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you are completely off your rocker. If you've found the person you want to spend the rest of your life with, regardless of if you've been with a black man or not, that shouldn't matter to you anymore. But seeing as how it does, you shouldn't get married! How would you feel if he said, "I haven't been with an Asian, a woman from the UK (you know the ones with the sexy accent, OH! Speaking of accent....), I haven't been with an Australian, a woman from Brazil (babe, I've always thought they were exotic!) So, do you mind, Babe, before we get married, I think I should get this out of my system. You don't mind do you?" NOW WHAT IF HE CAME AT YOU LIKE THAT?!
2007-06-21 19:40:26 · answer #4 · answered by rayne81 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ummmm... NO. If you're engaged, it doesn't matter what color his skin is! That's ridiculous, if not downright pathetic.
If you're willing to hurt the man you supposedly love and are willing to spend the rest of your life with just so you can "try a black guy out" then you are NOT ready to be married at all.
I feel sorry for the guy who trusted you enough to ask you to marry him! If I were him and I had found out you even CONSIDERED this, I'd kick your dumb, selfish @$$ to the curb in a New York minute!
2007-06-21 19:37:02 · answer #5 · answered by Brutally Honest 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It doesn't sound like an easy sell. If you are looking to sew some wild oats then you're not ready to get married. To tell him you want to date someone else for curiosity sake may just be construed as not being very into him.
2007-06-21 19:36:23 · answer #6 · answered by Deep Thought 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to broach this with a great deal of tact and diplomacy. The threesome may be a bit much to ask for
2007-06-21 19:33:30 · answer #7 · answered by Experto Credo 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am white and I don't feel the need to try out different races or only date white guys, I think this is a misguided theory
2007-06-21 19:34:34 · answer #8 · answered by don't hate snowflake 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Face the facts there honey. You're simply not ready for marraige!
2007-06-21 19:34:39 · answer #9 · answered by pappysgotitgoinon 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
if your engaged why are you even thinking about dating anyone else? no matter what the race... i think you need to ask yourself if your really even ready for marriage
2007-06-21 19:44:13 · answer #10 · answered by Kelly 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Glad you love him too much to cheat.
2007-06-21 19:45:53 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋