My daughter is almost 4 weeks old. My mother told me and my husband that we needed to get out, and that she would watch Samantha ALL NIGHT. I know that we need the break, and I know that we need the sleep (heck, we haven't slept in a month).
When I left, though, I was absolutely horrified that something bad would happen to my daughter (even though my mother has CONSTANTLY taken care of my eight year old son since he was an infant)... I'm scared to death of leaving her alone...
Please tell me that this is normal... I miss her SOOO much ALREADY, and I just left her with my parents about an hour ago. :(
2007-06-21 12:06:42 · 13 answers · asked by <3 The Pest <3 6 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Newborn & Baby
Sunkissed, I thought that I was the only one who thought of terrible scenerios in my mind... I'm glad that I'm not psychotic.
2007-06-21 13:21:44 · update #1
Go to bed woman, LOL.. It is normal, I was so scared to leave my daughter I thought of some really extreme things that could happen while I was gone.. I never left her alone all night until she was about 8 months.. So if your not normal neither am I or most people on this forum!
2007-06-21 12:42:33 · answer #1 · answered by [Sunkissed] 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I feel the same with my daughter. That Is why I don't leave her unless I have to. But you do need to understand that leaving her will not hurt her only If she Is left with a responsible adult. Which, If your mother has proven herself to be a great baby sister then you have absolutely nothing to worry about. Just take It hour by hour and If you can't follow through with it then go get her. She is your daughter and no one can stop you from loving her sooo much!!!!
2007-06-21 12:12:35 · answer #2 · answered by If u were wondering, It's me 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your a strong woman! My son is 2 1/2 and I still have separation anxiety when I leave him with his father for 4 hours to go to work. I know that he is well cared for and loved, but let's face it...no one loves you like your mommy. My son didn't have his first overnight visit with grandma and grandpa until he was 18 months. And since then he has only done it 2 other times. I just want to be with him every minute of every day. Love your children and love your husband and have a wonderful time. Just remember, there are lot's more people out there just like you!
2007-06-21 15:58:23 · answer #3 · answered by Snickrs367 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well you know in your heart that your mom loves that baby, almost as much as you do. :-) And she will take awesome care of that precious little bundle. But that doesn't help how you feel.. lol. It is totally normal to feel that way.. heck I was still feeling that way when my kids got older and started going to friends houses and such. It'll be fine, she'll be fine, you'll be fine. Try to rest and enjoy this time with your husband. Call your mom, talk to her.. let her reassure you also. Good luck, and enjoy.
2007-06-21 12:13:21 · answer #4 · answered by morningglory_69_05 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Did you not go through seperation anxiety with your other child?? Of course it is normal.........Every mom with a newborn always thinks that no one can take care of thier little precious like they can. It is just your motherly instincts. Relax and go out and have a good time the more you practice having time for yourself the easier it will become
2007-06-21 12:11:01 · answer #5 · answered by Jen 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Everyone goes through that, but you have to force yourself to spend time with your husband hopefully that hasnt became a problem, if you get too clingy to them they will stay clingy to you and be more shy and not as outgoing to people other than you. You have to give your husband time too its not fair the baby gets all your attention and concern, guys get a little jealous they just dont want to sound like big babies.
2007-06-21 12:12:12 · answer #6 · answered by deedee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is totally normal! I was this way and I hated the feeling. I never learned to love getting the 'break' I just dont ever feel as though I need one but they say we do :) Good luck
2007-06-21 12:09:59 · answer #7 · answered by Jennifer K 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is very normal when we left our baby for the 1st time i cryed for 4 hours. I will tell you what every one told me you need time with your self and enjoy it go take a hot bath!!!
2007-06-21 12:11:16 · answer #8 · answered by Stephanie A 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OMG, GO TO SLEEP. Your mother brought you up OK didn't she? Your daughter will be fine and have a chance to bond with granny. Take care of you and your hubby for a while.
2007-06-21 12:09:34 · answer #9 · answered by Renesme 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of Course you are normal to feel this way. You are with her day and night, and now you have a break - so it feels very strange to switch gears.
LEAVE THE COMPUTER NOW and do something for yourself and your husband!!
2007-06-21 12:41:14 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋