I need to move away from my narrow-minded circle of friends, but in my late 30s I am finding it hard to open up to new people. I notice I am much more cautious these days than when I was in my early 20s. Do people still ask others to come over for friendly chat over a glass of wine or something?
2007-06-21 12:05:50 · 5 answers · asked by like-it 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
I use to be awkwardly shy in school and had friends, but most of them were older than me. After I joined the military, I came out of my shell. I decided that I can be nice to everyone and treat them with respect. You can be open enough to smile at people and say hello.
I am 39 and I still make friends. I have old friends that I have lost touch with and even some of my friends that are not as close as we once were. I think that God has us meet people for different purposes in our lives.
Why not invite some people over to your house for a pizza party or something. You can invite people from your work. I work in the health care field and I travel around the city. I meet people that stay friends and people who are just acquaintances.
You can still be cautious and be friendly at the same time. My gut will tell me when something is not right. I know who to avoid in my life and who I can become friends. I have old co-workers who are my friends. Find something you have in common. ie... one of my friends loves to go fishing as well as I do. She likes to garage sale and we do both. I have other friends that just like to go out to eat and then go directly home. I have to respect that is how she is. She doesn't like to do much of anything else. Each person you meet will have different interests. Maybe you will find a new interest also through one of them. Try to be open minded when it comes to doing things with your friends. You may actually like to go bowling or putt putt golf, or just going to a movie. And..... you can ask them to join you.
I also have a cookout every year and invite people I know plus neighbors. You meet new friends that way. You will know in your gut if someone is not who they say they are. That will be God telling you something. You can also go to church. My boyfriends church, Sunday school, goes out once a month to different things, like a movie, outings to eat places, etc.... See if one of them has something like that.
Best wishes to you and your life. May God Bless you.
2007-06-21 12:21:18 · answer #1 · answered by Stephanie F 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Good question! That is somewhat of a problem-was for me too. I think this is partly a result of our modern society. I don't think it was quite this bad in the past. I think people are more serious nowdays-just compare our music, for instance with the oldies. Everything is serious and people are not interested in things like friendship because such things do not further wealth and success. I think laughter and activities without particular purpose are important foundations for friendships. A lot of people have "contacts". These are superficial friends which serve some purpose usually business related but appear as friends. A lot of gays are going to thumb down me for saying this but I think a lot of people stopped hanging around same sexes for friendship because they do not want people thinking they are gay. On the other hand, they cannot hang around any particular member of the opposite sex much or people will start talking about that too, and the opposites sex (usually women) often do not trust the other person to have only plutonic relations. I can barely remember a time when it was not quite this bad. I am not saying friendships do not exist any more-just that they are harder to form and keep.
2016-05-17 05:54:21 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Glad to hear some one is in the thirties to say hi I'd prefer coffee to wine & not on a chat-line either! Just though I am hopefull to meet more friends Have you tried one of those 4#s
Anyway I am about to see if a person from the building interested or my past if I see them once more as I could of had coffee the one more time but had banking to do that day.
2007-06-21 12:24:15 · answer #3 · answered by David H 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i find myself the same way.. and i'm only in my late 20's
i think it's because i grew up with the same group of friends.. some since kindergarden
it's hard for me to open up to someone new.. it takes time.. that's just how i am
2007-06-21 12:09:12 · answer #4 · answered by thegofessional 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
WELL IT IS GOOD TO BE CAUTIOUSES TO DAY YES YOU CAN STILL FIND FRIENDLY ONES OUT THERE JUST KEEP ON LOOKING
2007-06-21 12:31:47 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋