am i really putting myself in that much danger?

Question

im 17, My Mom, dad, uncle and just about everyone else in my family are going crazy because How "Bad" my friends are! I have 2 or 3 friends that do drugs, and 4 pregnant friends, and i had a friend that got shot in the Face the other night....So is it really that dangerous to me? My uncle said bullets dont Hurt.....They Burn, and that kind of scared me, They want me to get new friends but i cant, and i dont want to disobey my Family....Am i gonna end up dead or Addicted to drugs if i keep hanging out with my friends? I have alot of values and really dont think i would do drugs, and I dont think i would ever get shot.

Im gonna be going to draughons Jr College for two years, and then im gonna to to either Austin Peay State University, University of Tennessee, Or University of Alabama in Huntsville.

Answer 1

Truth is your chances for all that are higher than kids who don't hang around those kind of kids. The drugs at some point probably will temp you and at 17 if they do not have more goals than to do those things, I think your family may be right. Drugs are depressants and bring people down anyway, and yes I have done them, but wasted a lot of years healing wounds with drugs/alcohol. It does not mean you need to ditch them just try and find some more friends who have higher ambitions and encourage them to set goals of what you want to achieve, you are at least a junior I would guess so what are all of you planning for after high school. It does not need to be college, though its a good idea, but do any of them or you have jobs? Maybe start there.

Answer 2

be careful because hanging around with them can and most likely will change your values. When I was a sophomore in high school I was never involved with drugs, never had sex, never did anything. I was a straight A student. My junior year I met three girls who changed all of that. I became addicted to pot for about a year I almost flunked out of school and changed everything I ever was. I realized finally that I was going down the wrong path. I made new friends nicer friends. Though, I am not saying you should drop your friend's it is your decision but...be very careful and real friend's wouldn't make you do things you do not want to do.

Answer 3

My son is a great guy & he has hung out with people like this @ your age. He is now 22yrs old & got a good job but, they was people coming up to him & asking him if they could buy drugs from him. He told them NO that he has never sold or done drugs. The people laughed @ him & didn't believe him cause they said well you hang out with so & so. My son then realized what that looked like to someone else for him to hang w/the wrong crowd even though he didn't do what they did. So, yes you can get a very bad name just from hanging out w/them. Find new friends before you end up shot or killed. Good Luck

Answer 4

Your family is right. Nobody ever thinks they will do drugs. And nobody ever thinks they will get shot, but all too often it's the innocent bystander who gets shot. If you are hanging out with people who have made other people mad enough to shoot at them, then you are definitely in danger. Think of a subtle way to start moving away from these friends, listen to your family, your Mom and Dad always know best! In college one of my friends was hanging out with these two girls who were known as sl*ts and had even contracted STD's. My friend wasn't like that but it got to the point that whenever she would meet people they would say, "Oh, you're one of those nasty girls with the diseases." Who you hang out with reflects an impression of who you are to others, think about the impression you want to put out there. Good Luck.

Answer 5

Yeah, it does sound dangerous. Even if you have good values, teenagers do stupid stuff (Let me correct myself, PEOPLE do stupid stuff.) so don't say you wouldn't do it. If your friend was shot in the face you definately shouldn't be hanging out with him because he might have a stalker... the drugees are bad news and someone who is 17 should know that. If a few of your friends are preggers, that MIGHT be okay as long as you keep your head straight. And don't use the "But I'm 17 and act like I'm 18" act because if you are even asking if it is okay to be hanging out with these people you must be very nieve and immature.

Answer 6

I'm not sure how legit you are with your question. You sound intelligent, so I have to assume that you understand the old saying, if you lay down with dogs you'll get up with fleas. You can't have it both ways. If you want to have a successful, positive life without lots of bad things happening, you need to stay away from people who use violence, drugs, and other illegal means to support their lifestyle. 17 is way to young to be having babies, and I'm hoping that you are using both birth control and condoms to protect against STD. I have a 20 year old daughter and 4 adopted daughters between 19 and 23. Life is hard at your age, but bad choices can make it much much worse. I'd be happy to chat if you want. Please take care of yourself, you're worth it.

Answer 7

The cemetery contains a few people who never thought they would get shot when all they were doing was hanging out with their friends. Your family is right to be worried, and you should indeed stay away from those people. Values and a drug-free lifestyle won't save you if things go wrong.

Answer 8

Here's the thing: you might be a good kid, and have life values. But when you are hanging around other kids your age who do drugs, and get into trouble, then that makes you more suseptible to doing these things as well.

I'd say listen to your parents. They do know best, and they are trying to look out for your best interest.

If you truly care for some of your friends, then just try distancing yourself from them, to clear your mind. Maybe this will be good for your friendship, or at least good for you.

Goodluck and be safe!

Answer 9

Yes absolultely you are in a bad situation. I was able to hang out like this and not do any drugs for a few years but before I knew it I was addicted to anything I could get my hands on. It is a hell of a lot harder to get off the drugs then it is to get on hun so pleeeeeeeeaaaaaaase be so careful.

Answer 10

Well it's up to you. If you think you have great friends and you know you wont turn out like them, then thats okay, just be careful. Just because a friend does drugs or gets pregnant does not always mean you will go out and do the same. Of course there will be ignorant people that say "you'll start doing them too if your friends do it" but it all depends on you. Just don't get influenced by them.