Hi everyone. I'm male, just turned 24 this past monday and I have always aimed at getting married at 27. I find myself in a situation just right now as I realyzed I will have 3 years to find the right one. (this is only an idea that pased by my head by the way) how do yo u know that the person you are right now is the perfect one to get married? I think I am somewhat attractive, I have a good job, have a degree under my belt and studying to be an engineer. I have a girlfriend and she has been awesome with me for the past six months, but I don't see myself married with her. Finding a girl friend is not hard really, but finding the right one... I don't know how that feels. what made you say: "will you marry me" (guys) or "I do" (girls)?
2007-06-21 11:34:15 · 13 answers · asked by Chuco 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Happy Birthday first of all, I just turned 25 on the 8th. :) I don't think you should set a timeline for yourself, but I understand why you did. Everyone likes to set goals for how they want their life to play out. I will tell you this, though. Right before I met my fiance, I had started to whine around and complain that I was never going to meet someone I would feel happy enough with to stay with forever. My friend Sabrina cheered me up by telling me how young and beautiful we are and how we have our whole lives ahead of us to get married. She said to enjoy life. Right when I started to get on board with what she was saying, I met the man who is now my fiance. We spent 3 years together before we got engaged.. which I think was a very smart thing to do.. because honestly, after 6 months of being together I definitely would not have felt like he was husband material.. but after 3 years of sticking it out, going through ups and downs, and learning how to truly be close to each other, trust each other, and communicate, not to mention appreciate each other's subtleties, I realized he IS the one I want to share my life with. Hope this helps.
2007-06-21 11:49:11 · answer #1 · answered by Linz ♥ VT 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
thats a pretty easy question. First off, dont put marriage on a timeline, you can not speed it up or slow it down. The right girl will come along when she is supposed to. Second, I knew I was in love and had found my wife when I found the girl that I could not imagine living life without her. It just seemed natural for me to be with her. Ever since then, got married in a hurry for reasons out of my control, and never looked back, I think I made the right choice, unfortunately for you, you need to not worry about this and slow down a bit and enjoy yourself. When the time comes you will know!
2007-06-21 18:47:06 · answer #2 · answered by Lorax099 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is no right age to get married. I thought I'd be having kids by 25. Ha! So not how it turned out... thank god.
I found my fiance when I finally stopped looking. I was comfortable being single. I didn't NEED a man. And along he came. Desperately searching for a life partner will only get you a lot of bad first dates.
2007-06-21 18:48:22 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I love and care for him deeply. Things moved fast for us. We moved in together after just three months of dating and got engaged shortly after that. We have been living together for a year and a half now and are getting married next weekend.
it just felt right. We are so comfortable with each other, even to fart or go to the bathroom in the same room with each other. There is nothing that i can't say or do around him and he is the same with me.
Can't imagine what i would do with out him.
2007-06-21 18:47:42 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to take your time getting married is a big deal the right person for you will come when time is ready dont rush your self into marrige wait for a while before you think about the idea of getting married.
2007-06-21 22:21:35 · answer #5 · answered by Abby E 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think your first mistake is thinking that you have to be married by a certain age. I think if you focus on that you'll be too quick to find someone who you will HOPE to fill the shoes. What is meant to be will be. If you dont think your current gf is marriage material I think you can at least do her a favor and be honest and up front with her. I realize not all women go into a relationship with the hopes of getting married, but a lot of women start invisioning their futures within months of being in a relationship with someone. You owe it to her and to yourself to be honest.
Dont worry about not being married by a certain age!
2007-06-21 18:39:22 · answer #6 · answered by DelinquentGurl 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
first, i think you need to get this goal out of your head. you could wind up with the wrong girl just cause you feel you've reached a deadline. go with the flow for a while and stop worrying if the next one will be "the one". when it's right, you'll know. it'll all fall into place. relax, your still young.
2007-06-21 18:43:06 · answer #7 · answered by racer 51 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Forget your marriage goal.
Either one of two things will happen
When you meet the one you'll know... OR You'll meet someone (possibly current GF) who you know will treat you good who will commit to you fully - and hopefully you shall do the same and in time love will grow.
Either of those situations can end in divorce however. The more you rush it the more likely everything will fall apart.
2007-06-21 18:39:49 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The "right time" to get married for ANYONE is only after you've taken the time necessary to get to know one another - warts and all.
You need to discuss all the various core issues that are important to you. Examples: sex, money, careers, children, politics, philosophy, religion, etc.
2007-06-21 20:29:40 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can fall deeply in love but if you are going to fuss and argue then that is not the right one. If you have little in common then that is not the right one.A couple needs to be agreeable with each other as well as in love..
2007-06-21 18:54:27 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋