2007-06-21 11:16:35 · 23 answers · asked by willo 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Your kidding right?
No one would marry if this was the case.
2007-06-21 11:19:00 · answer #1 · answered by simplydelicious 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Parents have been approving and disapproving of their children's future spouses for thousands of years.
Should their view on the matter be the final say? No. Ultimately, an adult has the freedom to choose whom to marry.
However, when the relationship between parents and child is close, hopefully the child will listen when parents express concerns--keeping in mind that parents may know more about life and love.
I also believe that if a child marries someone the parents hate that the parents should not let that interfere with their relationship with their child and should try to get to know the spouse and make the best of things.
2007-06-21 18:25:47 · answer #2 · answered by grumpyetal 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think so... It is the child who has to fall in love with someone and decide if they want to spend the rest of their lives with that person. A parent cannot for see the future and know whether their child will be happy and in love with their spouse. So I think those decisions should be left up to the people involved in the marriage. Plus, if my in-laws had to approve my husband and I would have never gotten married. And we've been happily married for four years!
2007-06-21 18:21:54 · answer #3 · answered by lauren0459 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They should be allowed to approve or disapprove, but ultimately it's the child's choice who he/she will marry. Still, if the child has a close and caring relationship with a parent, and the parent doesn't approve of the future spouse, I think the child should consider why the parent has concerns...
Parents often see things their child "in love" is blind to.
2007-06-21 18:21:30 · answer #4 · answered by Mel W 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it is important to have your parent's input on your future spouse because they are the ones that have your best interest at heart. They don't look at the outside but can judge what kind of a mate he will be. If they are telling you that he is no good for you they are probably right. They have been there done that. Think carefully if they don't like your choice because it is a red flag warning. No matter how much they disapprove however, it is still your choice. Just keep in mind when he is jobless and watching tv in his underwear, or outside smoking crack, that your parents were right.
2007-06-21 19:24:16 · answer #5 · answered by Yo C 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this question is either dumb or badly worded. Should parents be allowed to approve, well who is going to stop them from approving? The question that you SHOULD be asking is should a parent have the ability to deny their child the option to marry someone if they disapprove of them. I got married and my parents did not really approve, but I did anyway. They had no control over it, but they did not disapprove either, they were mostly neutral. Bad question...next time word it better so we know what in the world you actually mean.
2007-06-21 18:39:58 · answer #6 · answered by Lorax099 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just love your child, if they make bad choices, help them with fixing it. No one is perfect. And, do you really want to make your child choose between you and a spouse, cuz chances are you will lose. If you have a real concern----u saw them stealing cars, sleeping around, etc... then I would at least inform my child, but until that point, be happy for them. Life is hard enough as it is.
2007-06-21 18:49:13 · answer #7 · answered by Qyllix 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Every person has a right to their opinion.Most of the time( a few rare cases when it isn't so) the majority of parents have a MUCH better judge of character than the people who are all starry eyed, full of lust and emotion and fantasizing how perfect life will be as soon as they marry the man or woman of their dreams and change or fix them and mold them into the perfect mate!The parents see the fiance' as they REALLY are.Not as the other fantasizes them to be.
2007-06-21 18:31:20 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think parents should be allowed to give their blessing, and make their feelings known, but never with the intention of those feelings actually making a difference. I think it's important for the parents to be honest, but it is 100% the child's decision on whom to marry.
2007-06-21 18:20:45 · answer #9 · answered by Buck Cherry 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO NO, I think it makes a big difference whether or not everyone can get along, but it is always going to be between a couple to decide their future. When others put their two cents in it can become a conflict.
When you get married you will probably hear let these two lives become one, not let their parents and them all become one.
2007-06-21 18:23:30 · answer #10 · answered by hezzy_9805 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, they shouldn't be allowed to CHOOSE the child's future spouse, but they can approve or disapprove all they want. You can't force them to have the opinion you want them to have...but their opinion shouldn't count when YOU decide who YOU want to be with.
2007-06-21 18:19:10 · answer #11 · answered by Lisa E 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋