Do you agree that baby's should stop having baby's?

Question

my cousin that is 14 years old is pregnant and im mad at her because i think she should have known to not have sex.(well at least have protected sex) im 16 years old and i thought i had tought her better (as the big cousin) . but they dont listen. life is 2 short 2 be having babies when you are just a baby. dont you agree? i think while your young you should try to live instead of having sex. life is 2 short for me to try to be out there having sex and having babies. im trying to live my life and get an education first. i have the rest of my life to have kids . i just wish i could have got that through my cousin head.

im not trying to play high and mighty i tried to tell her. her parents my aunt and uncle looked dwn on me. they always thought i was a bad influence when i tried to tech her right from wrong. people make mistakes but i tried to tech her. thank you and have a blessed day

Answer 1

Babysis... what a horrible thing to say.
my advice would be to support your cousin during this hard time. I am sure she realizes that the situation she is in is less than ideal.
YOU can still have a positive impact on her life. Congrats to you for being an excellent role model... I applaud the way in which you view life.

Answer 2

Well first of all she made a mistake. Nobody is perfect, and you playing high and mighty isn't going to help her any with her already stressful situation. she needs your support now more than ever. First she needs to tell her parents or a trusting adult to help her figure out what choice is good for HER . And if she decides to keep her baby than that is her decision. I had a baby at 16 years old the father left me but I had him and he is now 8 yrs old I also have a 3 yr old and a 18 month old and am 25 and going to college so just because she has a child doesn't mean she can't have a good of life as you she will just have to work a little harder for what she wants. So put your judments a side and give her the support from her older cousin that she desparatly needs Good luck and she can also go to planned parenthood for help from an adult

Answer 3

Yes, I agree. How is a 14 year old going to pay for all the things a baby needs? At 14, you cant work, you cant drive a car. How can a 14 year old go to school and take care of a baby 24 hours a day? Why would a 14 year old want to be tied down changing dirty diapers all day, getting up at 3 in the morning to feed the baby who is screaming its lungs out. I just dont know. Its not like a doll that you just throw in the closet when you want to out with your friends. This baby will be her responsibility for the next 18 years!

I read a news story of a mother who taped a pacifier to the babys mouth so the pacifier wouldnt fall out and the baby died! Another story these women left their young kids home alone so they could go party and the house burned down while they were out and the kids died.

Answer 4

I would also like to congratulate you for being very mature about this situation. Unfortunately for your cousin, yes, she is still a baby, and there's going to be a lot of life that she is going to miss out on. Even though she might feel like she can still accomplish everything (and she might), she will be dragging her poor baby through it all. Her baby will be the one that will suffering, bcuz even if she decides to continue school, her baby will be missing out. A baby needs it's mother to be focused on it. I'm speaking from experience. I have first handedly witnessed teenaged moms either drop out of school completely, which has an impact on the future for the young family, or the teenager completes school, but the baby is being raised by someone else. You know?

I definitely wish her the best of luck. Being a mom is a fulltime job, and sometimes it's hard. I'm married and had my first child at 26!!, and that was hard enough. I cant imagine being 14! Wow, I dont even think I was thinking of sex at that time (yet).

Well, as for you. Take care of yourself and live LIFE!!! There is PLENTY of time LATER, to have your family. Party, travel, go to school, and finish!!!

You will be a be parent, because you LIVED!!!

Answer 5

You are very wise to be so young! I agree with everything you said! We do not need children raising children!

In fact, the inmaturity of some of the young mothers can be of more harm than good to their babies. I mean, it is hard to parent and do it well! You've got to have some life experiences behind you before trying to rear a human being. It also helps if you have an education! At least the child is reared in a home with higher standards for the love of learning.

Keep your head on straight and you will gain your goals!!

Answer 6

In recent statistics and studies, they have shown that pre-teens and teenagers (11-17) are becoming more sexually active and having children at their young ages. It's more and more that you find pre-teens and teenagers who are still babies themselves becoming pregnant.
You are right, they have their whole lives ahead of them. I tell the children that I watch all the time that they shouldn't start dating until they are out of high school and possibly out out college. This way, they'll have a better idea of what they want out of life.
My mom had me when she was 17 and it put a huge burden on her. She wasn't yet graduated from high school, my mom and dad were dating off and on (they didn't have a stable relationship and they weren't married yet). On top of having me, she was juggling school of course and she was also juggling a part-time job and my dad was juggling two part-time jobs. I may of been planned, but my mom was still very young and nieve and they had no idea what they were in for. Because of this, I was raised by my grandparents and aunt during the week and then Friday night through Sunday evening I was taken care of by my other grandparents who lived 30 minutes away. My childhood was rough because I didn't know my parents.
It seems to be common in today's society for kids to have kids and either the grandparents take over, or the baby is given up for adoption or given to a foster home until adopted. It's sad!

Answer 7

It is something that we as older cousins, older brothers or sisters should pay more attention to. Because we being older know what they are going through at that age. The temptation, and peer pressure. No matter what you do to teach someone right from wrong and set a good example, we also have to realize that they are not us, and we can't expect them to be as perfect as we think we are. We try and teach them so they don't make the same mistakes we did, but they are not going to make our mistakes. They are going to make their own. Its OK to be disappointed but don't be mad at her. That's especially not what she needs, help her to consider her options and move forward from there.

Good Luck and God Bless!!

Answer 8

I think it is great that you are trying to protect your cousin. Personally I think if the government stopped handing out welfare to teenagers who get pregnant through making the choice to have sex, then we wouldn't have this porblem, Let's face it, there are numerous people out there who choose to have babies just for the welfare hand out.

I'm not saying your cousin is one of these, but I am sure through her choice to have sex, and now the inevitable result of being pregnant, that she will be eligible for one of these payments, and the goverment will think nothing of giving it to her.

I just think if they re-evaluated the system, it would alleviate the problem. People need to realise just how hard it is to raise a child. And if they arent ready financially or otherwise to support one, than they shouldn't be having sex.

I rest my case.

Answer 9

it is not your fault,we all make our own choices.i am proud of you for valuing yourself and education and for knowing there is more to life for you! that's wonderful.it is not your job to raise your cousin her parents or guardians should be taking better care of her.but then again if she is determined to do things she is too young for they probably will not be able to stop her.i hope your cousin makes the right choice for this child.you stay with it and do good in school.you can show others there is a better way.good luck to your cousin too.

Answer 10

I agree. I also wish to say that girls below 21 years are not physically and mentally prepared to have babies. So, if they have, then it will be a problem for them for the rest of their life.