This is something I have struggled with my whole life. I feel worthless or depressed unless I have a girlfriend or a woman who is giving me attention. I am wondering if this is just the way things are or if there are actually people out there who are happy without this validation??
2007-06-21 11:01:52 · 6 answers · asked by fedup 1 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
I used to be in your shoe's, and still am to some degree. But I'm getting out of it. I used to be black and white about it, either having a woman is everything or it's nothing. Now I'm learning that it's actually somewhere in the middle. Having a woman, and not just any woman, but a healthy woman in my life will make my life better, but I can still live without one. I was trying to use relationships to fill needs that couldn't be filled by a relationship. So it would just fail over and over again because the person was never able or willing to give me what I wanted. I had to go into therapy and recovery to work on myself and get those issues taken care of. Then I wouldn't feel the need to get it from a relationship.
2007-06-21 11:11:36 · answer #1 · answered by LG 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dude I don't need a woman validation..so yes there are people or at lest a person out there..a woman doesn't make you a man...you make your self..and yes I am not gay either..but I do love having a woman and being with a woman..its only natural..human all crave championship..I don't feel worthless..you see..I am the type that believes in revenge and the revenge types don't hate them self's..they hate others..do on to others for what they have done to you...get it good..later..
2007-06-21 11:08:52 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you have a serious self-esteem problem. You have to be able to stand on your own two feet and say that you like yourself before you could have a serious mutually satisfying relationship with someone who likes herself. Your 'ego' will always be fragile if dependent on others for validation. You must seek self-validation and become self-actualized. If you can, donate some time to a good cause and do not seek any return. Practice this method. You will find yourself in giving to others rather than trying to find something for yourself.
2007-06-21 11:09:35 · answer #3 · answered by cavassi 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Actually a LOT of women feel they are not whole without a man. I have known my fair share of ladies who will stick with a man who doesn't work, cheats, uses drugs, etc just so they can not be alone.
2007-06-21 12:15:06 · answer #4 · answered by Amy K 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dang that would suck... Glad I don't need any validation. But of course sex is better than no sex. So it's definitely nice to have a woman around.
But fortunately for you, there are many women who need a man for validation, so you should be able to find a perfect fit out there.
2007-06-21 11:08:01 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋
ah. validation, well i may seek their opinions but not decide for me on many things. for example do you need validation from them to go to the bathroom? i guess not. see you dont need women or woman validation. you were just lying to yourself about needing their validation.
2007-06-21 15:27:45 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋