I've never noticed this happen before with my husband, but we had talked about guys being able to ejaculate and then go again. My husband said he didn't understand how people could have sex for hours at a time, because after awhile he loses the erection, or it's just not as hard.
So then, yesterday, we are going at it, and he is really close to the edge, but I'm not, so I suggest changing positions. I moved from my back to my front and he lost the erection! It was completely soft! So, he said to give it a minute because it was due to stopping when he was that close. He just manually stimulated me, and then after a bit he was able to put it in (not fully erect) and then it was okay and he was able to finish. No condom involved so it wasn't that. Does this happen to a lot of guys or what? He's never had a problem before, and he leaves me happy. He says he can get to the edge or have intercourse for awhile and then stop no problem. Same with oral. Is something wrong?
2007-06-21 09:57:20 · 5 answers · asked by Tyler & Kylee's Mom 4 in Health ➔ Men's Health
Oh, and he's just turned 30, so he isn't old. We've been together for 10 years and we have sex like twice a week.
2007-06-21 09:59:43 · update #1
Nothing is wrong. If you discuss this too much and your husband gets to thinking about his erection he will begin to have problems. An erection is a spinal reflex. It does not require thought. Anything which interferes with the sexual activity - and at times this could mean changing positions - may cause a man to temporarily 'lose' his erection. Get him thinking about you again however and the erection should promptly return. Sounds as if you two have an enjoyable sex life - so just enjoy it - don't worry about it.
2007-06-21 10:03:24 · answer #1 · answered by john e russo md facm faafp 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Sexual excitement and what is needed to maintain an erection are a combination of many factors, and these are different depending on the person. Some people maintain a strong erection with not contact to the penis at all. It mostly has to do with what's exciting for you. If you haven't had intercourse with your wife for 7 years, perhaps you've gotten used to other forms of stimulation, and vaginal sex is just something that doesn't turn you on. If it was something that fired your imagination, you would probably remain hard and excited even if you felt very little on your penis. There are other exciting sensations when making love - contact with your thighs, the other person stroking you, the feel of the other's body against yours. You can retrain yourself to become excited by vaginal sex if your want to add it back to your sex life. Ask your doctor for referral to a sex therapist if you are unable to retrain yourself.
2016-05-17 05:11:30 · answer #2 · answered by sherlyn 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well maybe it's due for the fact that maybe when you changed positions that it just went soft because he wasn't in that groove especially since it was so close to him cumming
2007-06-21 10:09:15 · answer #3 · answered by big sexy 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
yea.....he might not want to amit it but he is loosing interest....try new stuff, roleplay, toys etc....bring back the spark in the bedroom
2007-06-21 10:04:35 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
yes cause you begin to lose interest.
2007-06-21 10:01:20 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋