Was I wrong to treat this guy like this? ( not go out with him because he has a son?)?

Question

ME

Age:19
Virgin
No kids
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HIM
Age:27
Not a virgin
Has a son who lives with the mother but he checks on him and spends time with him at his place.


I don't care if he was a virgin or not but just the thought he already has a child made me go the other way because I feel since I don't have any and am not ready to be a apart of any childs life I felt this wouldn't work.

But at that time I ignored him I didn't want to tell him plus its not the childs fault its just you have to get to know them and hope they like you and I wanted a relationship with someone who doesn't have any like myself.....was I wrong?

Thanks Fred...I know its wrong to say this but I want a differant kind of lifestyle too and going out with him I felt would ruin half of what am trying to get to.

Answer 1

Dude, leave his ssa alone, you dont need that drama, its hella dudes with no kids out there.
Trust your gut and be strong.

Answer 2

If u dont want to be with someone for some reason then dont, but also let them know this, it can be difficault taking on somone else's child, specially if ur a woman, but one thing i dnt understand is that why wud a guy who is NOT virgin want a virign, cuz they say that virgins r usually unattractive whereas the ones who aitn virgins are attractive, they r confident enough to have sex , to show thier bodies and ppl want them cuz they r slim , tall attractive, not saying ur ugly cuz i dnt even know ya or seen ya but usually virgins end up with virgins and vice versa, PEACE".

Answer 3

If his son doesn't come to stay with him, and he is 27 years old...chances are, he is still messing with his child's mother and is looking for someone on the side. You were not wrong, because you will ALWAYS come second...or actually, third. It is one thing to go with a guy who has a child who gets legal visitation at his place of residence. Anything else is fishy.