sex question for married ppl?

Question

sometimes when we have sex..... my hubby seems to beat me... what makes a man go so quickly? it like maybe 5 mins... its not a all the time problem...and i have had this problem with other men even my ex hubby...i dont understand it.......or am i just havin the problem of climaxing?

Answer 1

It called having a selfish lover.... decent men come last unless it a quicky.......then it whoever gets there first ...usually us.. sorry

Answer 2

To be VERY brief...consider this. The male sex organ is strictly on the outside, physically easy to stimulate. A woman's is not. The exposure of the man's organ helps it achieve it's goal far quicker than a woman. This is basic human biology stated extremely simply and with attention to younger eyes reading. If you desire an orgasm every time, then the male should be attentive to your biological requirements before his. (making love is not all physical, it must have an emotional component too) If this is not a normal problem for you two, then have a little chat and tell him that sometimes he is finishing off too fast for you. He should respond appropriately. If it is becoming a bigger (more often) problem, a long chat followed by the possibility of considering medical help might be considered. BUT...talk about it first please!

Answer 3

Quite frankly if a man can't hold out, he's selfish...plain and simple.
There are plenty of other things that are not direct stimulation to him that he can do for you to get you off, then he can jump in and finish, maybe even bringing you to your second O by the time he's finished.
This has been the way it is with the last 3 guys I've been with since my divorce. They say they don't feel like a man if they finish and the woman doesn't.
And believe me this is a wonderful revelation after being married 10 years to the minute man.
And a little note for you guys...being quick all the time isn't ok or normal...all 3 of my last boyfriends has said it has taken time to learn how to hold back and control your muscles, but its well worth it...because if you think a 1 minute orgasm is good, then let it build 3 or 4 times before letting it go. Intense and long lasting.

Answer 4

I've noticed that in the last couple of years I climax a lot quicker myself. My wife used to almost complain that I went TOO long before finishing! That she was totally exhausted and couldn't do it anymore! But I think as the testosterone levels in men go down, so does their ability to keep going and going and going. If that's an issue for you guys, then try some nice slow oral! Keep him on the edge for as long as you can. And if that doesn't work, a nice big toy for him to use on you could come in pretty handy too! Why make erectile disfunction pill makers rich when all you need is to be a little more creative?

Answer 5

I read through some answers before I replied. Ignore the bone heads who say he's selfish. Unless he never gets you off that isn't going to be the case. The pleasure from sex can be over whelming and a guy can go well before he wants to. When I was young I had little to no control and at times it was over before I felt like we got started. Like you said, maybe 5 minutes. Over the years I learned tricks to first get my women ready before I ever penetrate and second to hold off until I know she's climaxed.

Answer 6

There are many reasons this happen. He might have pre-mature ejaculation. This is not that uncommon of an issue for men. The men may also be that attracted and the sex is so great, they just *** that fast. I would try less intercourse, later in your love making. Enjoy the passion of each other for a longer time. If you man is just getting on, getting in, then he is just looking to *** and get off.

A good man will be able to make you enjoy it as much as they are. I like to kiss my wife all over and hold her very close, lots of touching and licking, before we really start. I like knowing she enjoys what were doing just as much as I do.

Answer 7

It is literally a chemical reaction between the man and the woman. I have been with some woman who our body chemistry matched perfect and I lasted a very long time. There were times when they would climax 2 or 3 times before my one. Then there were woman were I only lasted less than 5 minutes. Body chemistry is for real and this is what it really means.

Answer 8

i think alot of guys are too lazy to control their ejaculation time. If he could slow down or even stop for a minute and then start again, he will last longer. My BF lasts about an hour in this way. So it's like fast & furious then he slows or stops, then goes again and so on. Also, I don't think 5 minutes is long enough for a woman to climax. It takes me a while. 20 minutes or more.

Answer 9

Sometimes I finish before my wife and I continue to pleasure her with my hand and mouth until she is finished!

Another way to make sure I last is if she services me first, then I spend time pleasuring her until I am hard and good to go for round two. Then on the second time I last forever and can always let her finish and achieve what she needs the second time around.

COMMUNICATION, is the key to great sex!

Answer 10

it normal it takes a women 20 mins to warm up and it tale 5 mins or less for a man to warm up he need to do for play with you. get you going like on a movie i saw the girl said he need to warm up the oven that,s you befor he stick in the turkey that,s his little buddy between hims legs.good luck.,

Answer 11

Although your profile pic is small, you definitely look like a woman that would please a man very well. Perhaps it is a position thing. Maybe its just a matter of being ok with him cumming first and then having him continue to pleasure you til you do. If you are both ok with that, then its a win win..and no one feels pressure.