My ex and I broke up a few months ago, but remained very close friends.
I just found our that his ex-wife (who got engaged in December) has gotten married. My ex and his ex got a divorce last July, so not even a year ago yet.
I am the closest person to him that knows. Do I tell him? I don't want him to be caught by surprise and then not be in a place where he can process the information.
Thanks!
2007-06-21 08:47:47 · 16 answers · asked by loves2sing 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
One of the reasons we actually broke up was because he wasn't ready to date after his divorce. She cheated on him with her now husband, and every time her name gets brought up, I can still see the pain in his eyes.
Bottom line, he is my closest friend and I am his....despite the ex factor. I just don't know if he would rather hear it from me and get the emotions (anger, hurt, whatever) over with or if it is better to hear it from someone else/
2007-06-21 09:00:09 · update #1
if you guys are that close - then i would tell him. that's what friends are for. He would probably be more upset if he heard it thru the grapevine - and then found out that you knew and didn't tell him.
2007-06-21 09:14:13 · answer #1 · answered by lambchop09 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He might not care. But as a friend perhaps mention it casually then change the topic to something more happy. It will probably hurt somewhat despite the break up.
2007-06-21 15:51:41 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
That depends... is he the type of person to wig out in a situation like that? If yes... tell him.
If you are still really close friends... I would tell him.
If you know it wouldn't bother him if he found out on his own... then I probably wouldn't bring it up.
2007-06-21 15:54:40 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nope, close friend or not this isn't between you and him. It's between him and his X. Not your place to get involved. Either way.
2007-06-21 16:04:56 · answer #4 · answered by Kitten 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to weigh it out......would he be upset if you didn't tell him.......He may be your ex for a little while.....he may not be ready emotionally to have what you desire.....you can wait on him and find out.....
2007-06-21 16:03:53 · answer #5 · answered by Been There Done That 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well if you truly are his friend then you should tell him....He might not get that hurt,since the divorce is final............
2007-06-21 15:55:16 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not your problem. If you see him... ask about it. "so... ex was married eh?"
Otherwise... not your concern. Stay out of it. I think.
2007-06-21 15:52:13 · answer #7 · answered by teritaur 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
"process the information"...aren't they divorced? And aren't you his ex also? Stay out of it.
2007-06-21 15:51:29 · answer #8 · answered by ron-D 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Will it upset him??? If so, then there's no point in disclosing that information. Keep it to yourself.
2007-06-21 15:51:28 · answer #9 · answered by Rachel-Pit Police-DSMG 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
stay out of this, sooner or later he will know, but it is better if he knows it from somebody else not you.
2007-06-21 15:59:04 · answer #10 · answered by Gila 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋