I have posted this question before, but I wasn't clear enough so the answers were somewhat irrelevant. I met this woman on a train reading a book that I had previously read. She is 35 years, yet she looks 25 years old (that was what I thought before she told me her age). I am 26. We, after a small talk, exchanged numbers.
Prior to meeting again, we spoke over the phone about 4 times getting to know each other. She is nice, sweet, educated, classy, and open-minded. The first time we talk a walk at Central Park. We had a good time. I told her my feelings toward her. She told me that she is looking for someone to marry and settle down and considering my age not ready to do so. She also mentioned that I am young and the youngest person she has dated was 5 years younger.
I listened but still I wanted her, so in my third date with her while holding each other at the movies, I went for the kiss. She was hesitant, yet went for it. Yes, we French kissed.
When together, we have a good time. We laugh, play, and converse freely. We keep doing this every time we meet. It was my 5th date with her and I am not sure if I should pursue her more beyond friendship, Is it time to go for home run?, wait a bit, or just keep it at friendship…What should I do, and what do you people think is going on here?
2007-06-21 08:46:19 · 13 answers · asked by EDD 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
you already crossed the line, i dont kiss my friends like that
2007-06-21 08:49:52 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
What is holding you back? Do you think this is the woman for you? You have described a great woman, and it would be a shame not to look for a future with her and let this chance get away from you if you think that there is a chance you two have a future together. If you know you are definitely not ready for marriage, then you should back away. However, I married my much younger husband 10 years ago, and two kids later, we are happy as pie. I did have to wait for him to reach about 30 before he matured enough to understand what marriage was all about, but we are very happy because that initial attraction and care and concern for each other has never faded. -- and, by the way, I was looking for someone my age or ten years older at that time, and could not see a future with a younger man - but it has all worked out once I couldn't let go of the deep feelings I had for him.
2007-06-21 15:58:33 · answer #2 · answered by Ambrosia 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dear chap, She needs a man ten years older than you. You could not give her the things she needs (I do not refer to the body but the soul) and you could end up terribly hurt by all this. Enjoy her while she is there. If you want to see what will happen to you go rent a DVD of The Summer of 42. It breaks my heart each time I watch it and she will break yours. I am so sorry. The only alternative is to ask her if she will marry you at which point she may bury her head in her hands, shake her head of hair and say ""oh you are so sweet but....(fill in the blanks)"". You French kissed and she needs a man with a bank account. You are her intermediateaffair toyling. Enjoy her and tell her you love her but don't expect anything in return.
2007-06-21 15:54:57 · answer #3 · answered by pwwatson8888 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Edd, I think she is probably a little hesitant because she may think that because of your age you aren't ready to settle down. Women of course somewhat are by nature a little more mature than men, this is not a put down, but the simple truth. I am 35 and I have dated younger guys, and to be quit frank, they were mostly guys who wanted to party, hang out with their friends, etc. So I believe she just needs a little assurment that you are mature and ready for a committed relationship. If that's what you want, it shouldn't be that hard to show her. I can tell by what you are saying she afraid she will get hurt. At our age, we want a man who is in it for the long run, not just a one night stand, we can get those all day everyday. We want a man who will be there for us, who we can depend on. So i hope that helps and good luck
2007-06-21 16:14:15 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You shouldn't push the relationship at all.You should have fun with her, hang out, converse, do stuff together and see what happens. Its obvious she's having some issues with the age thing and if you push her she's going to withdraw. Just be patient and accept whatever happens with an open mind. If it turns out you guys aren't going to be together, be okay with that and try to enjoy your friendship.
2007-06-21 16:09:05 · answer #5 · answered by Kitten 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she has expressed interest in settling down and you are not willing to do so, you need to be crystal clear to her. You need to tell her you are hesitant in getting into a relationship that will lead to marriage, but at the same time express to her that you do enjoy the time you spend with her. Tell her, and let her decide if she choses to continue.
2007-06-21 15:51:47 · answer #6 · answered by kmtiburona 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u asked this like hmm 3 times now....u r not asking a question, rather a story!! hmmm u r on yahoo telling people what to do rather then just tell her how u feel, just go to her tell her how u feel again, and if u guys get married, send me an invitation.!
2007-06-21 15:54:00 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Again, if she doesn't want an immature man, you'd better hold off until you grow up a bit.
Do you just like losing 5 points?
2007-06-21 15:52:57 · answer #8 · answered by ron-D 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Sadly, can't answer this for you, any REAL 25 year old wouldn't be asking? home run.....hehehehehe haven't heard that since I was 11. too cute.
2007-06-21 15:50:14 · answer #9 · answered by gypsy g 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i think if you are having fun continue.. see where it goes i think only time will tell.... just have fun and when the time comes you will know just follow your heart......
2007-06-21 15:52:50 · answer #10 · answered by shawna w 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋