How long did you fight your sexuality? Did any of you try to repress your feelings and urges? I don't know if anyone has ever done this I am just curious and it might help me figure out my path.
2007-06-21 08:36:07 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
Yes, I attempted to repress my sexuality until I was 28yrs old.
I attempted to "pray" it away.
When that didn't work...I tried having multiple male sex partners...thinking that enough sex with men would force it out of me....
When that didn't work...I tried settling down, getting married and having a family.
Well I have a family..but I'm still gay.
Yes, I'm divorced..but my sexuality wasn't the reason.
It still took me several years AFTER my divorce to finally accept who I am and live an open and honest life.
Since then I have truly found happiness. I have a well adjusted, sexually secure, honest, hard working and talented son. I have a loving and supportive family and a faithful and loyal life partner.
2007-06-21 08:43:06 · answer #1 · answered by DEATH 7 · 3⤊ 2⤋
6 years
2007-06-21 15:38:06 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
20+ years with some breaks in between. For a long time I tried to fight it off and pray it away but that never worked. Then I just suppressed it for any number of reasons, mostly familial and professional, but I would take little jaunts out of town to enjoy myself. Thank God Provincetown was just up the road. lol I came out as bi and as trans several months later. For me it finally just became a case of enough being enough and deciding that even if I lost some family or "friends" over it that not being who I am wasn't worth it. We all have our own time for doing it and I'm sure when you're ready you will too.
2007-06-21 18:43:39 · answer #3 · answered by bi_tgrl 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
At first I thought I could of been bisexual, but then I figured out that I didn't like girls at all. I liked guys, and guys only! I never been with a girl, and never want to try. I found out that I was gay at 14, but I knew that I liked guys at 12. I had signs of homosexuality every since I was 5 though. I played with Barbie Dolls, and I remember this one time that I took 2 dolls one time and fought about one Barbie stealing Ken away from her. I always played kitchen and house with the girls in Kindergarten. So the signs came early on, but I didn't figure out that I was gay until I was 14.
2007-06-21 15:46:47 · answer #4 · answered by staroftheuniverses21 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I fought from the age of 10 to 18...I was raised very religious, with a path toward the ministry..I was told that if i prayed hard enough and believed hard enough, I would change...I hated myself.....I suffered physical pain (by my own means) every time I had an ''impure'' thought. the scars are a reminder of that time in my life.
Finally, I stopped hating myself and started loving the person I was born to be. And I have been in a great relationship for almost 14 yrs now...never ever been happier...
Good luck with your own personal battle!!
2007-06-21 15:42:07 · answer #5 · answered by Oberon 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
wow good question. I remember liking girls from as young as 5 years old. But I had no idea what was going on. So, I don't think I was actively suppressing anything. I remember recognizing that I liked girls in my early teens. I would imagine that if I was a guy I'd get to date these girls. As a couple years went by I remember thinking, 'I think about girls alot, I need to stop this." Then I remember thinking, "well nobody knows so who am I hurting." But I still kept it all internal but I still didn't think I was gay. Then when I was about 18 or 19, I remember finally saying it out loud to myself, 'I'm bisexual.' (Just to clarify, this wasn't a transitional period, I still am bisexual, 10 years later, much prefer women, but still bisexual nonetheless). It took me from the time I was 19 until I was about 22 to come out, because I was scared. And in that time period when I was truthful to myself but to no one else, I suppressed a lot of urges. And I think I missed a few promising opportunities because of my fear. In that time, I met 'the one that got away' because even though I think we both felt a connection of something more than friendship, neither of us had the guts to own up to it. Also, I just in general I missed out on some fun.
2007-06-21 15:50:46 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I did not accept my sexuality until I was 28 years old. I knew all my life, as far back as I can remember in fact that I was attracted to guys. I even went so far as to try forcing myself to be str8 even getting married when I was 18 only to get divorced at 21. Good luck in figuring out your path.
2007-06-21 15:44:30 · answer #7 · answered by regularguynlr 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm not gay myself, but my best friend in high school is. He first figured out that he was gay in seventh grade and spent a miserable six years trying to hide it. He didn't come out publicly until the year after we graduated from high school. And for what this is worth, this was back in the 1980's, when homosexuality was more frowned upon than it is today.
2007-06-21 16:16:24 · answer #8 · answered by senzuri 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
20+years
2007-06-21 16:49:48 · answer #9 · answered by kanei 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I tried for a short time to date guys. Making out was uncomfortable. The first time I tried to go past kissing, I got pysically ill. That was the end of my pretending to be str8.
I have a friend who didn't come out until she was 55. Another came out when he was 42. We don't all accept ourselves easily or early in life.
Good luck where ever your path takes you. May you tread safely and in good health.
2007-06-21 15:40:22 · answer #10 · answered by FTW 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋