I just found out (for sure!) that I am 8 weeks pregnant. My boyfriend & I plan on telling our parents here very soon. Were trying to get a plan set up to tell our parents so maybe they won't freak out on us that terribly bad(i'm 23,he's 22,we both still live at home) My parents leave tomorrow for a 6 day cruise. Some of my friends are telling me to tell my parents before they leave so it will give them more time to think about it away from home while they're 'relaxing' others tell me me & my bf should sit down this weekend while my family is gone & really think through our plans & tell them next week when they return. What would you all do if you were in my shoes? Tell now or later?
2007-06-21 07:29:56 · 16 answers · asked by Just Call Me Jenn 4 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
tell them after, don't ruin their trip
2007-06-21 07:33:43 · answer #1 · answered by june-bug54 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Get your plan together while they are gone then tell them when they get back so when they start throwing questions at you you will have the answers. Make sure your boyfriend is there and let him tell them some of the things you guys have planned so they can see he is wants this to. Show them that the both of you are responsible.
Good Luck!
2007-06-21 15:00:10 · answer #2 · answered by Mommy~and~lovin~it 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well you know your parents better than any of us. Do you honestly think they are going to be super upset? If so I wouldn't tell them now, let them enjoy their vacation.
If their not going to be super upset, you may want to tell them now so while their away the news will have time to settle in with them.
I'm leaning towards not telling them now. There's plenty of time to tell them, you most likely wont start showing until at least 12-16 weeks of pregnancy maybe even longer. So that gives you enough time to plan on how you want to break the news.
Even if they do get mad, I guarantee if they are reasonable people they wont stay mad for very long, it's not like you're a teenager. They will love that baby......
Good Luck & Congratulations
2007-06-21 14:43:25 · answer #3 · answered by Angel Eyes 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I agree with your friends. Come up with a plan. Since you felt you were ready enough to create a baby your plan should include moving into your own place and supporting yourselves, very soon.
Once you have everything set out, then tell your parent's.
2007-06-21 15:04:26 · answer #4 · answered by Angel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would wait to tell your parents until they come back so if they are upset, it won't "ruin" their vacation. Tell his parents while yours are away and then tell yours when they come back. Maybe that could give you time to think about your plans, because if your parents are any like mine, they will ask you what your plans are (where will y'all live, how are you going to support a baby, will y'all get married-the most dreaded question for my bf and I btw :)
Good luck to the three of y'all!!
2007-06-21 14:44:14 · answer #5 · answered by Momma to Kaeden Nicole 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I would tell your family after their trip so that way they can still enjoy themselves and not worrying about your situation. You want them to have fun!
Your parents may be disappointed in ya'll, but you are adults and it's time for you to start making adult decisions. So while they are gone take the time to think through the stuff you want to say to them.
2007-06-21 14:36:39 · answer #6 · answered by Torey♥ 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Hun, you're 23... your parents should be excited to becoming grandparents! I would tell them before they go! Then they can brag on their trip... lol... and if they wouldn't be so happy... at least it would give them some time to think about it. By the time they get back... they'll be excited! Good luck & congrats!
2007-06-21 14:37:01 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I'd tell them after, just in case they are not exactly thrilled, they won't spend their vacation upset. Ya'll should sit down and start drafting a budget, plan of attack, and everything that is associated iwth the next 18 years of your life.
2007-06-21 14:37:46 · answer #8 · answered by Harley 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
tell them when they get back, you will only complicate things by telling them now, they might worry the whole time or even decide not to go at all, rather tell them when they get back, then you will have lots of time to talk about it.
Good luck
2007-06-21 14:51:12 · answer #9 · answered by seldean 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i would tell them after..i agree w/ some people that it will ruin their vacation. when you do tell them, make plans to be out for several hours and that will give them time to think.
2007-06-22 11:04:58 · answer #10 · answered by happypants 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would tell them when I am comfortable. Time away or time together will most likely not change their opinions. But it might. I would tell them before they leave. You don't need to rush into planning, so it can ease someone else's mind. Congrats on your preggos!
2007-06-21 14:34:50 · answer #11 · answered by rd03 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋